my mom died last year.

and I love very much.

but when she died, I did not shed a single sincere tear.

am I a dry ice or is that normal?

Have I accepted her death that easily or, I haven't really accepted it at all?

im confused.

It really depends on your relationship. Even if she wasn't abusive, if she was emotionally distant and cold then it would hardly surprise me to see a child not miss them. But I'm probably just waxing sentimental here.

Propably your attitude made her die,And i think you're a cold bastard so that explains your cold feelings. So you can go die too , that will solve everything , trust me
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>>2 I'm really close to my mom.. like really close.

>>3 I can't die yet. I have to work so i could get my sister to college, maybe some other time.

Be careful she might die too by your cancer attiude. The drama life chose you! Poor guy

>>5 i think you're the cancer in my thread. haha

if you dont have a better suggestion that will make me understand what im feeling right now, pls zip your mouth because you're not helping.

your life must've suck coming up with that suggestion, poor guy.

Eh? Honestly, must we attack people on the internet, when their simply asking for help? Oi, learn how to grow up and be mature about things. >>5>>3

>>7 i dont think he will listen to you.
There are people on the internet that are so close minded and bitter in life like him, and he takes it out someone else.

XD

I just wanna know if this case like mine is normal or if I haven't accepted it yet.

Was it a long and predictable death? Or just sudden?

>>8 well depends how the mum was, was she abusive? nice?

Otherwise there's not much to say. I'd probably cry.

I don't know if it's normal, but normal is relative... either way it's not rare. you don't have to cry to mourn

Maybe you just don't cry easily? Maybe her death was expected and you were emotionally prepared for it? Maybe you understand that your sister needs you- that could have helped you accept her death and keep moving forward?

Personally, I think that you accept a death of a loved one when you no longer have unresolved feelings for them or for the circumstances around their death- like if you're still angry at someone or if you dwell on something you regret.. Acceptance is like a fairy tale ending. It would be great, but it's not a possibility for everyone and I think that it's just one of those things they learn to live with over time...

sorry that these are just a bunch of questions but hopefully your answers to them will lead you somewhere...

p.s. I cry easily and I'm crying right now.. I never know how to console someone but.. I'm sorry for your loss.. I can't even imagine

>>3 wtf dude...

>>9 everything was so sudden. we dont even know that she was sick.

>>10 very nice, very understanding, everything you could wish for a mother.

Up until now, every time my brother or sister talks about her they would cry.. i would just.. sigh and look gloomy cause i dont know what to feel.

I can understand not knowing how to feel in that case. It was unexpected and maybe you came to peace with it while she was alive or maybe it'll hit you down the road. Everyone reacts differently.

>>11 aww firefly, dont cry..

Maybe her death was expected and you were emotionally prepared for it? Maybe you understand that your sister needs you- that could have helped you accept her death and keep moving forward?

somehow this is what i think happened, back in the hospital.

but im not sure. it feels like she never really died.

during her burial, my tears were about regrets. regrets of not saying "I love you" one last time, not taking care of her more, understand her more, and not because she's gone.

>>12

When a person cries, it's never for someone else. They only see how they've been affected thus the tears. It's not bad to cry, it's a stress reliever. So maybe you didn't cry, because you didn't see your mum as a stress you needed to be relieved from. You wanted that stress and everything about her.

When I was a kid, I'd cry when mum use to leave me to go interstate or overseas. It was only due to primal instinctive needs. But you grow out of that stage, and you don't see her as a source of survival, but as a human being you cherish. It goes beyond loving a mum.

It's not really normal but it's not that uncommon either. It depends on how emotionally expresive you are, on your attitude towards that person and towards death. Some people don't cry because they didn't like the person that died, some because it hasn't really hit them yet, some because they rarely cry in general. For example, I get really depressed just thinking about death while my grandma reacts to news of people's deaths like she would if you told her that a goldfish died- it kind of sucks but that's life for ya. Maybe you just have a less emotional view of life and death.

>>14 don't you worry about me

maybe her death left you more confused than mournful really, and that's your own reaction to her death.. it's a reaction nonetheless. if you ask me, it might be a stronger reaction than crying and mourning, you're at loss at what to feel- from the shock?

Death is apart of life, and if she was a woman of faith she is hopefully in her rightful heaven.