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Malleable Passion (1)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2024-11-06 05:52 ID:QECtbPB8 [Del]

I get lost in the flow of your words to a smile. Captivating my soul in a trap so elaborate it would be called “going through life”. The pleasantries never spoken yet infinitely heard. It’s blasphemy. That someone so beautiful can touch so many hearts and ever be affiliated with the poison of humanity. It may not be a love letter, but if love is the question I carried it passionately till it burned up in my hand and now there is nothing but the pleasant thoughts of your voice swaying me to sleep like the slow rain drizzling on my window, with my head rested on the cool pillow of your breast. It’s maddening, I choose open-ended analogies because my dream is a fantasy but it allows me to keep my heart covered with the thoughts of possibilities. Maybe one day right?

The Drunkards Prayer (2)

1 Name: M : 2024-11-04 23:19 ID:EGY9K/MC [Del]

Oh Father, who art in Heaven,
harrowing be the name.

They Kingdom come, thy will discussed.
Over scotch whiskey, served neat.

Give us this day, our daily bread.
Preferably in liquid form.
Let those who trespass against us be scorned forevermore.

I've been led to my temptation by a mixed drink's icy chill.
If you won't tell me the answers, perhaps the bottom of this bottle will.

For thine is my kingdom, my pile of dirt.
I'll make sure that I'm not around before it gets worse

2 Name: Anonymous : 2024-11-06 05:50 ID:QECtbPB8 [Del]

I'm curious, did you make this yourself or was it written by another?

Anxiety? (5)

1 Name: Flames : 2024-09-09 14:49 ID:gTMftfuI [Del]

Anyone know any good tricks to clam down anxiety. I have what I would word as underline anxiety like I feel anxious then that makes my think of reasons why I feel anxious and then I get more anxious and paranoid.

3 Name: TS : 2024-09-12 11:58 ID:wxg/Qq5K [Del]

You could try the soldier's breathing technique, which essentially forces your body to calm down bit by bit. If you're open to trying it, Valerian tablets (not medication, it's herbal, widely used for sleep disorders and anxiety/stress) have helped me a great deal with mine.

4 Name: saidaichi : 2024-11-05 21:19 ID:By85K4An [Del]

Sorry I usually give friends advice with stuff kinda like this but I scratch at my arm till it bleeds Im not proud of it but I guess we all have some problems some times. I hope you find a way.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2024-11-06 05:49 ID:QECtbPB8 [Del]

Box breathing is an efficent method to use. 4-6 secs inhaling, 4-6 sec holding your breath, 4-6 exhaling, 4-6 holding your breath then repeat.

Meditation is also a great method for visualization of your stressors in order to overcome them. If you chose to go down this path I would recommend starting with a short amount of time. Around 30-60 sec should suffice. You will naturally want to go for longer.

Money (3)

1 Name: Yuki at Valhalla : 2024-09-24 22:09 ID:HDaOzrrv [Del]

Hello!

Currently I am 24M, and I am at the best point in my life. But, I need to get some stuff off of my chest. I am horribly scared right now. Due to *Insert way too long of a story* I had to sell my childhood home, because my parents are both, not great people, and the home was split between my brother and I in our father's will. I live with my partner, two cats, and recently graduated from my undergrad. I currently am enrolled in grad school, and came to the realization, that my part time job isn't making enough to keep up my half of the rent. I know I can rely on my partner for awhile, but, I want to avoid that, keeping the dynamics balanced you know? But, I think I don't have enough time to get a different part time job, continue going to grad school, and keep the new life I have built. I am so happy where I am, but I sincerely don't want to lose it all. I have been looking for jobs for the last few weeks, but, fuck, the pressure is starting to mount now with no one calling back. Just venting, but I'm tired of being scared, and worried all the time.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2024-11-03 00:14 ID:mizvBcgd [Del]

Suck it up, you're a guy and you'll never have to endure the struggles that girls/women face.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2024-11-06 05:45 ID:QECtbPB8 [Del]

Looking into sponsorships would be a good idea. If you have skill that you believe could be capitalized on you can see if there are any companies, people, or non-profits near your that are open to giving out sponsorships.

However, you shouldn't dwell on it. Stress causes people to make mistakes. You've run into a problem. Problems only become mistakes when you refuse to correct them.

Secret telling thread (180)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2018-07-31 16:02 ID:qOGvZN+W (Image: 750x750 jpg, 20 kb) [Del]

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This is a thread for telling secrets. From what I've seen, while you have the same ID within a thread, you have different IDs in different threads. So here we post secrets. With an anonymous name nobody knows who we are. I'll start.

I once long-distance dated a girl, who didn't realize she didn't have long distance texting in her phone plan, and I ran up her phone bill 50,000 dollars. When she told me this I blocked her, and got my number change. I probably ruined her life.

178 Name: Anonymous : 2024-09-14 11:17 ID:nNmTn2Z7 [Del]

bump.

179 Name: 0val : 2024-10-14 03:54 ID:maRXq1rp [Del]

My parents died when I was young and I have lived alone for over a decade now. I was lonely when I first started living alone but I thought I had gotten over it. Recently it has come back and it feels crippling at times.

180 Name: Anonymous : 2024-11-03 00:07 ID:mizvBcgd [Del]

I raped a straight guy in the ass, without lube. I talked him into it, and the best thing is he admitted it was the best sex ever. I'm really proud, not gonna lie.

Please be safe this Holiday season (3)

1 Name: LAZYBONEZ !BgxF79hIoI : 2024-10-31 18:28 ID:GslntVPr (Image: 1440x2560 jpg, 629 kb) [Del]

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Be safe today everyone

*Please don't leave your drinks unattended*

*Please utilize the buddy system at all times*

***DO NOT TOLERATE ANY OPERATION OF A MOTOR VEHICLE UNDER THE INFLUENCE AND DO NOT ACCEPT ANY RIDES FROM STRANGERS NO MATTER HOW CHARMING THEY SEEM***

2 Name: RoadRunner !ziZMENJ7vE : 2024-10-31 19:26 ID:KbWU3mqr [Del]

I had a successful night the only one problem was someone lost their glasses because of ther costume but was not successful finding them they cost over $100 😅😖

3 Name: Anonymous : 2024-11-02 23:55 ID:mizvBcgd [Del]

I know you mean well, but your advice is like putting a sticker on a severed arm. Let's get to the root of it: society keeps women weak and defenseless through femininity.

I someone could assist me with information on this that would be greatly appreciated. (3)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2024-10-20 15:28 ID:QECtbPB8 [Del]

I am trying to take some CBE's (credit by examination) my school offers it however, I am lacking in the fund department. Does anyone have any ideas as to what I could do to gather fund. It is about 20k+

2 Name: EpicKeith !K31THxH0Es : 2024-10-25 11:21 ID:wZ/cf+Ti [Del]

If you have any skills that you can offer, you can try setting up a Fiverr account.

If there's a subject that you are exceptional at, you can also try tutoring at a local college or highschool. Sometimes those positions offer pay, so it's worth looking into.

You can also try auctioning stuff off on eBay. Check some of the stuff you have in your home that you no longer care for. Some can be pretty valuable!

If you're a relatively healthy person, you could look into donating blood, plasma, sperm or eggs, etc. Some pay pretty well.

Part-time jobs also never hurt to try out. You won't get a huge amount of money, obviously, but every dollar counts!

Finally, you can try setting up a GoFundMe and hope that people are generous enough to donate.

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3 Name: Anonymous : 2024-11-02 04:03 ID:QECtbPB8 [Del]

I appreciate you taking the time to respond and I appreciate the help. Best wishes.

guilty and confused (2)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2024-10-20 15:36 ID:7jtqrGF8 [Del]

Ok so I just want to ramble a bit.
I have a friend I've probably been crushing on for a few years now, but I only stopped being in denial about it a few months ago. I didn't confess or anything because the situation was complicated. First of all, they had a boyfriend, second, I'm most probably NOT in their strike zone, third, I feel like my feelings for them are more aromantically aligned? If that makes sense.
My guilt comes from the fact that, they were going out with this boyfriend, and I never liked him from the beginning, he gave me bad vibes and he shut down any conversation with me for no reason whatsoever. But because I wasn't able to have any long conversation with him, I thought I shouldn't judge him based on just vibes alone and I should instead support my friend in their relationship. And also, since I had a (repressed) crush on my friend, I didn't want my hunch to be based on jealousy. Turns out the bastard was a toxic motherf*cker and my friend suffered a lot because of him.
So, while feeling vindicated that my hunch was actually real, I do feel guilty for never telling my friend clearly enough that I didn't like their boyfriend and that they should've stayed away from him or broke up with him sooner. I feel like, while trying to maintain a good front as a friend and someone with a repressed crush, I actually made them hurt even more, and I'm mad at myself and my lack of proactivity.
Another thing, I also feel like my romantic attraction towards them is devolving even more towards a strictly platonic, but still deep attraction. And this makes me wonder if I should let it devolve even more so I don't feel romantically attracted to them at all at some point and can move on with my life, or if I should try confessing once they've settled down their resentment and sadness for their ex.
I just feel so weird about them now, because I want what's best for them of course, but I'm almost entirely certain I'm not a good match for them. I know I could treat them 10000 times better than the asshat ex boyfriend, but I also know that them being attracted to me is almost impossible. And I also don't want to court them because that seems inappropriate due to the other guy getting his way exactly like this and I do NOT want to be like him in any way.

2 Name: I'mYourFriend : 2024-10-28 03:36 ID:MQLSDG6k [Del]

*patpat

Housemates (3)

1 Name: Roki : 2024-09-27 01:58 ID:XmXrTQmP [Del]

Hi guys, I'm having trouble with my housemates atm and idrk what to do. I'm living with 4 other ppl and 2 of which are really good friends I made last year. They happen by coincidence to be childhood friends and went to the same uni. They have a bit of a rocky history but they've been able to sort it out. Let's call them Alex and Chloe. I met Alex first, and I was living with him last year. Possibly one of the most kind people I've ever met. He helped me through a lot last year. He also introduced me to Chloe. Due to the pressure of needing to find somewhere to live quick, Alex invited me to live with him, Chloe, and 2 of Chloe's friends (Phillip and Layla) another important thing to note is Phillip and Chloe began dating after we all agreed to live together, and Layla and Chloe are also very very close. So what's the issue? Alex and Phillip got I to a fight over messages Abt what room they should have. It got pretty heated and Alex wasnt talking to anyone in the group except for me. Eventually, we all moved in except for Alex, who was planning on moving in soon. Then around last week Chloe, Phillip and Layla sat me down for a talk about him. They told me that they don't want to be friends with him anymore bc he said the n-word twice. (Another important thing to note, Layla is half black and her boyfriend is black). I knew about the first time, it was last March, at a party and he was sat with Phillip and another friend of ours who's also half black, and every other word that comes out of his mouth is the n-word. Alex told me he said it accidentally, apologized for it and our half black friend said it was fine. I don't know the context for the other time he said it. Apparently Phillip and Layla went around telling a lot of people about this and now a lot of people hate him. Which is understandable, given if you just say "he said it twice". He was moving in the next day and before he moved in we went for a walk and I told him that that's why they are mad at him, not the room thing. I don't know what possessed him to say it, or why it's coming up now, 8 months later, but I felt he deserved to know why a lot of ppl are shooting him glares and not talking to him. In light of this he decided not to move in, bc he thought it would be too much stress on him, and he's been looking for a new place. Eventually everyone found out and they were pissed he was moving out bc they didn't want to live with a stranger. So they are arranging a talk for all of us today to sort this out. I'm not sure what there is to sort out. I really don't want to go and it's making me very nervous. I know I shouldn't have gotten involved and told him, I didn't know he'd not want to move in at all. I mean, it makes sense though. I know what he said doesn't have an explanation and I'm not siding with him either, but he helped me though a lot last year and I felt he deserved to know. What can I do? If there's anything at all.

2 Name: DNY : 2024-09-28 23:09 ID:lkammqCm [Del]

I dont really feel like typing but you definitely did something right by telling him. If you want tho, dm me on discord. dny1232

3 Name: Roki : 2024-10-01 12:33 ID:XmXrTQmP [Del]

Just did :)

Boyfriend part #2 (3)

1 Name: Nitella : 2024-09-16 23:23 ID:XmXrTQmP [Del]

As per my previous post, I've been going long distance with my boyfriend for the summer and felt an emotional distance being put between us. I questioned him about it and he he felt it to, but he says he's unintentionally isolating himself from everyone. I just saw him yesterday after 3 months long distance and I started crying because I missed him and it was really good to see him, but he didn't say "I missed you too" or anything of that sort. So I brought it up because I noticed it immediately and it made me sad and he says he doesn't know why he can't say it, or anything sweet for that matter. Ex. (I love you, I miss you, looking forward to seeing you, you're pretty) Anything along those lines. And then he started crying too and we hugged there for a while until we both got too emotionally exhausted to talk about it ig. It is so exhausting arguing to him about this stuff bc he always says that he "doesn't know why" he doesn't do them, and then I spend hours fishing it out of him. I think I love him a lot, and I want to tell him but my self respect stops me because I know he won't say it back. Weve been dating for 5 months now, but 3 of those 5 months were long distance, so he feels he doesn't know me well enough to love me. I don't know what to do because this relationship is causing me so much stress but I won't allow myself to stay unless he shows me he loves me.

2 Name: Nittela : 2024-09-18 03:39 ID:XmXrTQmP [Del]

Saw him the other day, talked to him again. He's off again at home while I'm at uni. Nothing has changed so far. Was able to talk to a friend about everything he's done and I'm starting to realize just how bad this all is. He checks a lot of my boxes, and he hasn't been bad to me per se, like no lying or cheating or anything like that, but it really doesn't feel like we are in a relationship. He's gone from my loving boyfriend who makes me oragami flowers, gets me Lily's every week, tells me I'm pretty and helps me drag my suitcase to his house in the middle of the night to just some guys I talk to everyday, and the same thing every day. I've been trying so much and all of this hurts. It all hurts.

3 Name: KiashaKota : 2024-09-18 22:29 ID:syPBZ+Fo [Del]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain, especially if you haven't been dating long overall. One of my roomates was in a long-distance with someone he only knew for a short time, while they were together they were incredibly happy, and even while they were apart they still seemed happy. He didn't find out she stopped being interested in him until he dropped a lot of money on a plane ticket (she lived in another country). My personal long-distance experience wasn't as dramatic as that, but didnt turn out the best either.

This is a piece of advice I have given some of my friends when it comes to relationships, If the goods are good, but the bads are really bad, then its not worth it. Obviously I'm not in your brain but from the post I can tell that its giving you a lot of grief and pain, and anyone with even the smallest amount of empathy wouldnt want someone to deal with that pain. The pain of leaving would also hurt like hell, so I'm not going to outright tell you to leave him, but if staying around hurts then it may be something to consider.

I think it may be possible that he could be going through something internally. If he really has been distancing himself from everyone in his life then something may be happening that he isn't talking about. The reason I think this is because of his reaction when you asked why he couldn't say anything loving, the fact that he broke down reads to me that there is something going on. Maybe he really doesn't know what it is (emotions are complicated and I often feel that way too) or maybe he knows what it is and doesnt feel like he can share/doesn't want to share for some reason. If you think this might be the case then maybe try to stick around, it could be than even though he is pushing people away now is when he needs people most.
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