I spent I very long time crying about this. I have a boyfriend currently, but I have been getting a very weird feeling. It's like I don't love him, but do at the same time. He tells me how lucky he is to have me, his friends all say that he has loved me for a very long time before I even started dating him. I tried breaking up with him once and he didn't come to school for a while. I got scared and asked to talk and we ended up getting back together. He told a friend about me when we broke up. He started putting a lot of weird ideas in my boyfriend's head of how to "get back" at me. Ever since then, he's been overly-clingy and gets mad whenever I don't spend my free time with only him. I think I do love him, but, then again I don't know. I'm really confused right now and I have no idea how I even feel?? The warm-fuzzy feeling I got when I first met him is gone...

>>1 What do you love about him?

>>2 . . . I can't even answer that question. What is wrong with me...

Well maybe you don't actually love him. I think you should break up with him. This relationship doesn't sound healthy at all. =(

"He tells me how lucky he is to have me" and "He started putting a lot of weird ideas in my boyfriend's head of how to "get back" at me" and "He's been overly-clingy and gets mad whenever I don't spend my free time with only him"

These are all signs of how your relationship doesn't seem to be healthy. No one should tell you that you're "lucky" to be with them. They should be saying, "I'm lucky to be with you"
If his friends are putting ideas in his head to get back at you, that doesn't sound too good either. Friends shouldn't be meddling in relationships like that and I don't think you want to be with someone who would get easily influenced by their friends in relationship matters either.
There's no reason for him to be overly-clingy or get mad at you.

You also said that you don't get "the warm-fuzzy feeling" you got initially. I think that mostly sums up what you should do.

"He tells me how lucky he is to have me" isn't the same as someone telling you you're lucky to be with them. Still, it does come off as a little possessive. Overall, I agree with Lovely. This relationship doesn't sound healthy.

>>5 >>4
I told my two close friends about it and they said the same things you two said. (One even described it as emotional abuse.) I'm going to tell my parents about it. Problem is, is that the first time I broke up with him they were the ones who talked me into getting back together with him. So I'm worried they'll try it again and say that I don't understand or something...

Yeah, gtfo of that one, you will find it awkward and weird at first, but this sounds like you already know deep down, but are just really nice and don't want to be the one to swing the axe. it happens in life - its never easy but I can pretty much tell you that in two weeks you'll feel much better

>>6 If you trust your parents enough, you should tell them even if you think they'll try getting you back together with him. Perhaps, they just thought you seemed happier with him, but from the looks of it, I think the relationship will make you sadder if you continue. Explain that to them and explain everything he does that makes you feel uncomfortable, sad, etc. They won't try to force you to be with someone who you obviously don't like anymore or don't feel good around.

>>7 >>8 Ok... Thank you.