Hi, I'm a girl who is really doubtful about where this relationship is going. My boyfriend of three months has told me that he wants to start seeing other people for sex because I can't/won't give it to him. He does however respect that and says he can't be with me while going around screwing people. So we broke it off so that he can do his own thing. He also told me that he will always love me, and that when he is finished with his "sexual escapades" he wants to return to me. There does seem to be something wrong with that picture, but a part me understands his reasoning. My boyfriend has always been emotionally unstable, and I am always there for him to support him and give him advice. Unlike him, when I am in a crisis, or am having a bad day, he runs from the situation and doesn't try to comfort me or talk about it. He always says "I love you" first (so it's not a one sided relationship) and I also mean it when I tell him I love him as well. Our dating life is pretty great, and he treats me well, but There is always lingering emotional suspense. I never know when he's going to suddenly be angry, or depressed, and I do my best to help him, although he doesn't listen and it doesn't help much. If I am to take him back, I really want a few things to change, I need him to care about my feelings more, and I want him to mature a little bit before coming back into my life.

Thoughts anyone?
Has anyone been in such a situation?
Greatly appreciated ~Emily B.

Wow. well. I haven't been in that situation but it sounds like a dysfunctional relationship.

i had never been in relatioship like that,but as the number tow post said it sounds like a dysfunctional relatioship,if he trully loves you he would not look for other women just to satisfy his desires

It's hard for people who didn't involved in this kind of situation imagine how's your feeling, so I wouldn't say "I know how you feel", as I can't imagine the feeling that you are having.(｀・ω・´)Well I KINDA been in this kind of situation--with friends? Like, I do care about them a lot, but when the problems came to me, no one lend me a hand(´･ω･`)It doesn't really matter for me now ,though.
You may still love him, still like him like before, or not, but whatever your feeling toward him is, it depends to you. No one can change your feeling other than yourself, right?
You want him to care 'bout you again--maybe you have to give a try on having some talk with him, let him knows your feeling. And let him knows that not everything can just be solve with one sentence "I love you".
Who knows? Maybe you just have to give something new a try, maybe you just need to tell everything clearly...Whatever you want to change or do, it's only you who can decide to change the situation or make a choice ⊂((・▽・))⊃ Don't think that only you alone can solve the problem though, sometimes you need others to help you, so don't put the stress on yourself.

Sooooo......If nothing works, he still don't know that he needs to care about you more...Let me be straight forward. Why would you spend your time and everything on a person who gives you stress and negative feelings?(｀・ω・´)
Anything you do its up to you (ゝω・) Hope did helped you at least a lil' bit though

If he loves you he wouldn't have done that kinda thing I don't think he was looking for a relationship more of just someone to give it to him

Hey thanks guys!

>>6 You're welcome! Wish you have a good day there(ゝω・)

He shouldn't be pressuring you, that's completely unfair to you. If you aren't ready then you make sure he knows that and if he says that he will leave if you don't do "it" let him leave. He isn't worth it.