So there's this girl in my class (let's just say her name is V). V and I have been friends for 5 or 6 years. We became friends when we were exchange students in Finland. V and I used to be really close. But somehow everything changed last year when we became 2nd years in high school. Somehow she became cold and distant. Whenever I try to say something, she ignores me or shouts at me. I though I broke the ice while spending weekend in Operation Snowball (we call it M'SG) camp (she's a member of M'SG) but apparently I was wrong. Everything was fine until I got a message about camp reunion. I went there and met my friends. Everything looked ok. At the end of the reunion the leader of M'SG told everyone that M'SG is recruiting new members. I wanted to join but I didn't have enough courage. But V encouraged me to join. so I did. The next day I got a message from V. She told me not to join because I would take away her spotlight in the class. But I refused. After that she became distant again. I managed to break the ice again but even now she keeps her distance. She tries to avoid me in M'SG. Though whenever she needs help, she always asks me. Only then she becomes friendly.

Is she really my friend? Is it temporarily? If yes, then why did she want me to quit M'SG? I don't really understand.... (>o<)

This is quite a difficult situation you have got at hand there. First off, she probably does not want you to join because it would mean that you are a newcomer and people would be more interested in you than her (prolly), one possibility, if I had been there, I would know. And second, she basically avoids you, but runs to you when she needs help? Talk about selfish, you gotta talk to her about this, tell her what is troubling you regarding her behaviour etc. Simply have a nice frkendly chitchat and show her that you want ro be her friend (!). Good luck, fellow Dollar. Also I hope I have been at least a bit helpful.

Thanks!
To tell you the truth, she doesn't want to talk to me. She doesn't care about me being a newcomer. She thinks that I'll be better than her. Although it's impossible.
I want to trust her but I can't because she's selfish. Though she won't listen to my complains. She won't listen to me. What should I do then?

I think that the core of the problem is her and her emotions.
She needs to realize that she is partially hurting you with her way of doing things. And what if you were to be better than her, I do not see a problem here, for me it would become the more fun and challenge to beat that friend. You need to make her realize..

I already tried to show her that it's fun competing with your friend by doing my best in M'SG and helping my senpais in there. But she doesn't understand that...

This wouls be a little cruel, but she does not consider you that much of her friend. Either way, don't give up, I see you care about your friendship. Slowly, but surely tell her about everything, as long as you are honest she should be enough considerate, and if not... then it's alost case. There is a limit to how much can one be selfish, but I will leave the decisions to you. Good luck, mate.

>>1 she's not your friend, she's just using you. People change over time so this kind of thing is common, it sucks but you'll need to move on. You need to stop trying to win her over, she's not worth your friendship and you deserve an actual friend. Don't pay her any attention and keep with with your activity in M'SG, you shouldn't have to stop doing something that you like just because of her. Instead, spend your time focusing on having fun and being nice, you'll find new friends :3

sometimes the person v is having problems at there homeor with family or is thinking about someone (wink wink) just dont worry about it friends will come and go

She's probably a little jealous of you and doesn't want to admit it.she may be thinking you're holding her back from being successful and popular. Or maybe you just have less in common.she may have a problem and don't want you to find out and want to get over it by herself.i think you just should give her some time,put a little distance and see what happens.

I'm starting to think that she's just using me. But I've decided to wait a little bit more. Thanks for everything!