How do I tell her That i love her without worrying of rejection or messing up?

That will always be a possibility. Sometimes you just have to tell her and hope for the best.

Or don't tell her. You may learn something about her that completely changes the way you see her, and don't dismiss it because it happens to the best and the brightest of us all. There is a risk in both choices, tell her and you can either be scorned or regret getting what you wished for...or don't tell her, and risk being that much more unprepared when you find someone else or miss her too much to consider anyone else.

There's good and bad chances on everything. You've just gotta choose where to place your bet.

Or don't tell her, because there's a 99.99% chance that you don't. If you did love her, you'd have this mutual trust and understanding, and you wouldn't be asking people on the internet how to gamble with your relationships.

>>4 Well,thats not fair.We all need help sometimes

And Im in a bit of the same stituation.You just have to figure out whats more important-love or friendship.And yes,I know that everybody says that,but its true.Is it worth the risk of losing a good friend.Think about it.Would it last long or would it be a week of month long thing that breaks up quickly and easily.

And does she have another possible guy or somone that she's on and off with?Theres so many things you need to go over in your head,talk to people about,write down,just figure it all out.Weigh out the options.Just try to figure out what works for you to where you can both be compfortable.

>>5 Not fair? I'm being realistic. OP sure as hell isn't out of college, so even on the rare chance this did turn into a relationship, it's statistically doomed to failure. And if you're good enough friends, having dated for a month won't cause you to not be friends anymore.

>>6
I think OP could be any age, and that it's a legitimate question.

There's a lot of relationships that are "statistically" doomed to failure, but in the off chance that it just might work out, shouldnt be a problem?
Also, it'd awkward to be friends after a month of (at least) attempting to see each other romantically. Although, yeah. You ultimately do in the end choose whether or not to stay friends.



Maybe I just have a completely image in my head than Crisis from OP's question. But, under the assumption that you and this girl are relatively good friends and that you've had romantic feelings for a while (as in a LONG while, not like a month) and want to say something to see if she feels the same way, I say just tell her that you LIKE her. If she likes you back, great. If she doesn't, then laugh it off and move on. As long as you didn't become friends with her just cause you liked her, your friendship should stay intact. Rejection is something everyone goes through, so might as well be rejected gently by a friend than harshly by a distant crush.

My advice pay attention to how she looks at and talks to you in comparison with her other friends.If its the same,then sorry dude,but otherwise i have no idea.Women are like a rubix cube wrapped in a sudoku puzzle and hidden in a maze

>>8

Guys are like heartless dolls frozen in ice with their eyes cut out apparently.

>>7 No, look at that grammar. OP is capitalizing random letters, and not capitalizing ones that should be. That's not college level typing. And I'm not saying he doesn't like her, but that he doesn't love her. A lot of people here agree with me on this. Love requires a deep romantic connection built on trust, not just infatuation which is what the OP here is feeling.

Also, it isn't really awkward. I still hang out with my ex's every now and then (some have move, have kids, etc.) and it isn't awkward. If finding out that you two aren't romantically compatible makes it awkward, you did something very wrong.

>>1 I highly doubt you "love" her, but that's hard to tell considering, oh, I don't know... The fact that you gave us no information?

Regarding advice, get off your sorry ass and tell her. You sound and probably look like a wimp with this mindset; just go up to her and tell her how you feel. Who cares how she reacts? At least she'll know. You're not doing any justice to her or yourself by hiding it.

>>8 Sorry to say, but girls don't always change the way they talk when it's someone they like. Some do, some don't. For me, whether I'm interested in someone or not, they're just another person. I'm not going to act differently or talk differently to him just so I can get him to like me; I'm just going to talk to him the way I talk to my other friends.

>>8 >>9 And, by the way, harsh generalization there. To both of you. You can't categorize the same gender that way; everyone is different.

>>1 Just have faith and go do it. If not, it is what it is and life goes on. I do agree with >>10, love and like are mushed together too much these days by youth that no one really knows what the hell their talking about anymore. Sure, at times myself included in that.
Point being if you really love her like you say you do the what's holding you back?

>>10 That's shitty auto-capitalization on my phone, which I finally turned off.

>>13 The fear of rejection. Maybe I am just a wimp as BarabiSama says I am.

>>14 I'll accept that as a viable response to poor capitalization. Pretty much. If you puss out, nothing will ever change. Take a shot, because "what could have been" is a lot worse than "sorry, I just don't see you that way, but we can still be friends, right?".

>>10
I assumed it was cause he doesn't speak English very well, but OP explained. And well, I felt love for someone once and he didn't feel the same way back. Maybe it could've been obsession, but in retrospect, I really do believe it was love. But, hey I dunno.

Also, I've dumped a guy or two because I didn't romantically connect with them, and I suppose THEY did which is why they choose to only speak with me if they absolutely must. I mean, I don't think it's entirely impossible to feel awkward because of a failed relationship, and either way, should it matter? In relationships, I feel you find out more about a person than you do as just friends. If it was an "experiment" between two good close friends, then sure, in no way should it end up being awkward because it was a mutual experience for the two who already know a decent amount about each other. Wow, I dunno if the words came out the way I want it to, but have a go at that.

>>12
My sarcastic retort was apparently not taken sarcastically <3