I typed this all up in a hurry, so I'm sorry, I didn't have the time to explain too well, I was just extremely upset and wanted advice.
>>3 That was immature and selfish. Just because one lesbian broke your heart doesn't mean they're all bad. That's called prejudice, hon.
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>>5 Yes, I agree with everything you said, but let me explain this further.
Yes, he is accepting of my sexuality and will not hate on me for it. But, ever since I told him Easter of 2011 (Forgot to mention it's been a year since I came out to HIM, and I came out to the general public, my school, and other family members in December), he's been in somewhat of a denial. I can justify why, too- my sister, who's 6 years older than me, has always made horrible choices. She's been nothing but a problem child, and I mean that seriously; she got expelled from her high school, she's currently pregnant... there's always something wrong. And yet, I've been the opposite. Always listening to the rules, getting good grades, taking advice from my parents to heart instead of ignoring it like any other teenager.
When I told dad that I had a girlfriend, he passed it along like no big deal. He was really secretive of it, never brought it up, and I felt awkward, so I never brought it up, either. When I came out to everyone in December, he blew up. Not really at me, but he ranted to his girlfriend, my grandma.. Now, this is because he was in shock, and as Mitsuo stated, he grew up in a world where accepting homosexuality wasn't as widely common as it is in today's society.
Lately, he's been more accepting of my girlfriend. He's not weird when I talk about her or anything. But that was it. So, back to the current situation- a bunch of girls on facebook were being ignorant, and using 'faggot' and 'gay' in negative ways. Normally, I grit my teeth and let it slide, but it just pissed me off. So, I posted a status saying this-
" 'Oh yeah! I totally support gay rights! Gay people should be able to marry too!' And yet you STILL say, 'You're such a faggot!!'
Do you have any clue how that really offends me? You wouldn't dare say 'You're such a nigger!' to a black person, would you? And you still have the balls to say faggot. Well, you know what? If you think everyone is equal, stop using such offensive words.
Love,
People who actually care"
So, for that status, he blew up at me, saying "That doesn't have to be seen by the world." THAT'S what upset me, because I /want/ it to be seen. That's the whole damn point of facebook. I want people to hear me out, and maybe my typed words mean nothing, but I got lots of agreement. This wasn't directed only to those girls, so don't stereotype it under a 'status obviously directed to one person' because this applies to ANYONE who claims to support gays and use fag/gay in a derogative way. Back to the point- As a father, I can see why he was upset by me actually saying 'faggot' and 'nigger' in the status. But nobody's gonna take me seriously if I type in, "the... you know.. the f-a-g word." Maybe I could have, that was my own fault, I can take the blame for that. Yet, my point remains.
But what I do know is why he got angry. Because he thinks me being lesbian is just a phase, and I'll get over it. But as soon as I show an ounce of gay support or if I'm open about my sexuality, he gets mad because then it's like showing more devotion to my "choice", which it ISN'T. That's my point. He was raised in a world where heterosexuality was normal, and homosexuality wasn't. That's kind of how it is today, but slowly, that's changing for the better, hopefully. Anyways. I didn't choose to be lesbian. I didn't just wake up and say, "I feel like being lesbian!" No. I've known all my life, but I didn't really KNOW until a year and a half ago. I knew I was different as a kid- why didn't I have a crush on a boy? Why did I want to know what it was like to kiss my friend, Lena? I've always known, but I've always been secretive. Sadly, he didn't notice this. My mom did; when I came out to her, she actually went, I KNEW IT! xD
But in all seriousness, it's been a year since I told him and he still hasn't really accepted. He's still stiff about it all, and if I bring up the topic, he gets all pissed off at me, and I don't know what else to say or do. Does anyone have suggestions? Do I just wait more? :/