>>3, Beautiful response. One thing I feel you didn't drive home though is the part about how to find out who you truly are. I feel you told her what she would feel when she found it and gave her some excellent words of encouragement, but not how to get their.
I feel that their is never such a thing as a bad experience. The things you regretted up till now have helped you understand a little bit about yourself. At least the part that doesn't make you feel to good anyway. But that's OK. Now you know. The best way to find out who you are is to try and experience as many things as possible. I try to do something different everyday, just to see if I like it or not. You will experience bad things in your life, that's a given, but what you do afterwards is up for you to decide. Always trust your gut. If you feel as though you should do something, do it. But once it's all said and done, think back to see if that is what you really wanted. If not, you just learned what not to do the next time that situation, or one like it, comes around.
The voices, my advice, entertain them. The good ones anyway. Whatever that means. Find out which one you like more after you entertain one. Your thoughts wont always match your actions, and your actions wont always match your thoughts. Keep a diary/journal. It has helped me reflect. That's the best thing for you now. Reflecting helps you get to know yourself.
Find things you believe in. Things that you love more than anything else in the world. Once you have found it, act in ways that help, or at the very least, doesn't hurt them. That is the best place to start. You seem to know what you enjoy, so build on that. Create a foundation for yourself so that you always have something to fall back on when your down.
You will get hurt. I feel sorry when it happens, but it will happen. Don't ignore the pain, sorrow, grief, unhappiness, regret, or remorse. Grow from it. Use it to make you stronger. Each person is like an ore, mined from wherever it is we came from. We live in this world filled with things that will burn us. Each time that happens though, we are refined. A little bit of dirt is scrapped off, until finally, we are pure. The purest substance we can become. It takes time. Some faster than others, but time none the less.
Don't disappear. From what I read, your a sweet girl. I'd hate to see, hear, or even think that someone like you would no longer exist.
If you read this, please reply. I want to know if this helped, even if just a little. =)