My friend recently broke up with her boyfriend and one of her close guy friends has taken this as an invitation to pursue her, again. She doesn't like him that way but is afraid to turn him down because he has attempted suicide multiple times in the past. I can't personally talk to him because we hate each other, which is no reason to let him kill himself. I've never dealt with anything like this.
Please help.

Im in the same situation, except im your friend.

Go to a school councilour. Now. Tell her what you just typed on here.

Ah, the 'ol "If you won't date me, I'll kill myself." scenario. I had a friend that had a guy do this to her. The story went like this:

She felt horrible about it, but didn't like him that way. But she didn't want him to kill himself, so she said yes. The relationship was generally terrible, what with his ridiculous over-emotional ridiculousness, and slowly drove her to the edge.

She ended up calling him out on the floor; Being suicidal is no reason to guilt people into a relationship. If you're that shallow, fucking do it.

If he tries a guilt-trip thing, call him out, and what happens from there is out of his own sociopathic stupidity, or him realizing he's kinda being a dick.

If he just generally needs some help, get him help. It's totally okay to be friends with him and talk regularly, and listen to his problems without being in a relationship.

It mostly comes down to his own behavior and self-control. The best you can do is be gentle and careful in your words, and try not to assert unwanted ideas or beliefs upon him.

I'm assuming you guys are about 15ish, just like most people on this site... Life has only just begun; You'd be an idiot to end it this soon.

>>3, I'll admit, they are 15, but it's not really the "if you won't date me I'll kill myself" it's that he has attempted suicide in the past and she's afraid he might do it again. Personally I think he's an ass and she should kick him to the curb, as I have told her before. I'll try to get her to talk to the councilor about it (I don't even know his last name) but honestly, with our councilors I doubt much will get done.

>>4 Then I don't see the relationship part of this being an issue. Perhaps you should look at it as helping a person in need, instead of the relationship being any part of this. In fact, ignore that entirely.

Rather, if you TRULY think they might do something to themselves, go straight to his parents, but in private. Tell them what is going on, and suggest something along the lines of a suicide watch to make sure they don't try anything so absurdly stupid.

I was on one once, and they're surprisingly effective if nobody lets their guard down. That said, they let their guard down, and they didn't find me until four hours later when they got a phonecall from the police... Oh, look, I'm rambling. Sorry.

Just go straight to their parents, and start taking special care -without being obvious- of the situation.

>>5, if I knew his parents I would. Unfortunately, the way my friend's been talking, I think they might be part of the problem. I don't know specifics. Thanks for your advice. I'll try and find someone who can help.

Talk to your counselor, tell your friend to go to legit therapy, use the interwebs to find support groups.

Why are all the suicidal threads here relating to relationship issues?

Have none of you ever heard the song "All the Single Ladies" by Beyonce?

Mother. of. God.

>>8, The reason I am single, all in a nutshell.
>>7, Just want to point out, he's not my friend. In fact, I kinda hate the guy's guts (for personal reasons), however, he's been friends with my friend for awhile. So I'm going to have to talk my friend into talking him into going to therapy. God my life sucks right now.

Well, I was aware of that. That was more of tell her to tell him. She shouldnt be going out with him because of pity or fear he will murder himself, thatll leave her tied down forever worried that if she leaves him he will kill himself.
Tis what happens when people are over the top with their selfdestructiveness. Best of luck

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