what do i do...
i'm crushing on my friend who happens to be like, the center of our friend group, she's the main character, she's so charismatic, everyone is drawn to her and loves her, and i want to confess.
but here is the thing, she has many mini crushes going on at once at all times, and i am one of those mini crushes to her (heard it from her herself and from my friend who is closer to her and has insider info), but right now she's trying to move on from an unrequited BIG crush on one of our mutual friend. i wasn't supposed to know that she even had a big crush on this guy because this was insider info, and before i knew about it, i felt pretty good about maybe confessing to her because it felt okay and safe. but now that i know, i'm starting to notice how much she's very much not over him and how much she tries to get his attention and everything, and it's fucking me up in the head so much because it really feels like there's no place for me here.
i talked about it to my friend with the insider info and she told me that i really shouldn't worry about it, that nothing's going to happen between them because she Has given up (but witnessing everything i've witnessed i think she's still down bad), and that i just need to show signs of attraction to her for her to maybe start being more interested in me, and that i should still try confessing because we're so compatible that it'd be a shame to miss out on a great relationship due to my doubts.
but here is the thing, i've just been growing more and more uncertain and insecure, and i don't feel like she needs that kind of weight at the moment and i don't want to be a burden to her. so i don't know if confessing just 'cause is a good idea anymore because i'm carrying all of this baggage and she's still stuck up on that guy who doesn't love her back and i don't think i have it in me to compete with her obsession? like i love her so much and i really want the best for her, but i feel like i'd be imposing my unflattering self to her by asking her out. and i know it's up to her to make the decision in the end but i still don't want to show a pathetic side of myself and run the risk of making a really nice friendship turn awkward.
what do you think is the right way to go about it?

Pal... If you really love her then be a good friend to her. You know, being devoted and resilient means you can patiently support your friend, never rush. Like Masaomi supported Anri, even though he loved her. He respected her own choice but was acting as he felt like, never pushing, never rushing or forcing. And he understood his own feelings towards Saki. And Anri understood her feelings towards Mikado.

I think the right way is to be patient and supportive. Your dear friend is in the tornado of feelings, unable to stop. So be the harbor for her. Let her live through her storm, accept her opinion, listen to her rants and confession and just be a good pal. So when the time pass she might understand who is really important to her - that 'big' crush or this patient friend, who allow her to be as she are, with trust and support.

And I'm more than sure that rushing will destroy the friendship, exactly because it's so tangled and unstable now. Provide the stability first. Be calm, be strong, show her the acceptance and respect. And never expect anything in return. Because if you will - it will turn into business and manipulation, not the real love. And girls feel it with gut - you can be sure.

If your love is true you will understand. If you want her body only - then you might rush and ruin. Love isn't something fragile, that someone can ruin it from outside. So just let her know your feelings with your patient care.

That's my outsider's opinion, infullpsychosisrn-san. I wish you the best with your friend. Stay strong. Be patient and supportive. And you'll know your own feelings to her as well as she will know hers. Nice friendship is way better than ruined relationship. =w=

(OP here)
so i actually confessed lol and it went really well and i'm not in psychosis anymore.
we're not going out, we're trying to see what can work for us and we communicate, and it might not end up in a romantic relationship but i'm really happy to have been able to open up and to be able to talk to her honestly!
if this can serve as a lesson for anyone out there lol