1 Name: Roki : 2024-09-27 01:58 ID:XmXrTQmP [Del]
Hi guys, I'm having trouble with my housemates atm and idrk what to do. I'm living with 4 other ppl and 2 of which are really good friends I made last year. They happen by coincidence to be childhood friends and went to the same uni. They have a bit of a rocky history but they've been able to sort it out. Let's call them Alex and Chloe. I met Alex first, and I was living with him last year. Possibly one of the most kind people I've ever met. He helped me through a lot last year. He also introduced me to Chloe. Due to the pressure of needing to find somewhere to live quick, Alex invited me to live with him, Chloe, and 2 of Chloe's friends (Phillip and Layla) another important thing to note is Phillip and Chloe began dating after we all agreed to live together, and Layla and Chloe are also very very close. So what's the issue? Alex and Phillip got I to a fight over messages Abt what room they should have. It got pretty heated and Alex wasnt talking to anyone in the group except for me. Eventually, we all moved in except for Alex, who was planning on moving in soon. Then around last week Chloe, Phillip and Layla sat me down for a talk about him. They told me that they don't want to be friends with him anymore bc he said the n-word twice. (Another important thing to note, Layla is half black and her boyfriend is black). I knew about the first time, it was last March, at a party and he was sat with Phillip and another friend of ours who's also half black, and every other word that comes out of his mouth is the n-word. Alex told me he said it accidentally, apologized for it and our half black friend said it was fine. I don't know the context for the other time he said it. Apparently Phillip and Layla went around telling a lot of people about this and now a lot of people hate him. Which is understandable, given if you just say "he said it twice". He was moving in the next day and before he moved in we went for a walk and I told him that that's why they are mad at him, not the room thing. I don't know what possessed him to say it, or why it's coming up now, 8 months later, but I felt he deserved to know why a lot of ppl are shooting him glares and not talking to him. In light of this he decided not to move in, bc he thought it would be too much stress on him, and he's been looking for a new place. Eventually everyone found out and they were pissed he was moving out bc they didn't want to live with a stranger. So they are arranging a talk for all of us today to sort this out. I'm not sure what there is to sort out. I really don't want to go and it's making me very nervous. I know I shouldn't have gotten involved and told him, I didn't know he'd not want to move in at all. I mean, it makes sense though. I know what he said doesn't have an explanation and I'm not siding with him either, but he helped me though a lot last year and I felt he deserved to know. What can I do? If there's anything at all.
