Hi guys it's been a while which mean I've been problem free thanks to you guys. SO thanks, I just want to say me and my mother have a love hate relationship. I love her more than my father, but recently she's been making me feel inferior. I'm 16 and I can drive with my permit. I'm awkward and shy around people. Driving scares the hell out of me, and I'm a little overweight. All of that makes my mom feel like I'm the disappointment and that really hurts. A person that is supposed to love hurting you like that is just painful beyond imagination. I don't want to tell her something that will break her down, I can but I've been holding myself back. Please Help me she's gonna make me snap!

Hey, every mom thinks you're a disappointment one way or another (─▽─") My mom constantly nags me because during her childhood at a farm, she thought America was a place full of riches where the streets are made of gold [insert slow sarcastic clapping here] I know she yells at me because she'd blame herself if I ended up on the streets so I put up with it. What I'm hearing is a mother concerned for her daughter, but obviously she's sort of doing it wrong XD Try talking about it occasionally. On certain times try to squeeze in how this is who you are and that it's much easier said than done to change it. My mom wants me to talk more since I'm on the same boat as you with the whole socially awkward thing, but I'm not gonna change that XD (sort mom, but just no) I hope this helps (^_^;)

It's better that you talk about it with her calmly than waiting until you blow up. Obviously all parents are different, but when I was a teenager I would do that. I'd shoulder everything and when the moment came I'd unload it all at once, at which point they weren't in a listening mood.

You don't have to be forward about it like saying "Why do I disappoint you?", just bring up each individual issue you feel makes you inadequate to them over time. I tend to bring them up in casual conversation so there's a nice transition.

So I guess an example is:

The one thing that makes me feel like a bit of a disappointment to them is my financial situation. I've been working in a field for a while now that just doesn't have good paying jobs, that and I really can't stand it. I just brought it up slowly with a story from work and eased my way in to it by expanding on it, and eventually got to the point where I hate my overall situation right now. It was easier on me (and them) to talk about it that way rather than bursting through the front door and screaming "I fucking hate all of this!".

Whatever you feel would work with your own parents is definitely up to you. But I think people generally don't like explosive behavior, parents included. It's harder to actually listen to.

I'm not talking to her anymore I've tried and I've been patient with her. In a way I'M DONE WITH HER. I don't anything to with her expectations of a normal son. I'm me if she doesn't like it and keeps bitching about it I hope she sleeps with one eye open because she might never wake up again if she doesn't.