I'm a 15 year old boy that plans on becoming a girl in the future. I enjoy crossdressing at home, but I'm still having trouble with my voice, so I've only went out once went out into public crossdressed. My friends told me that they noticed multiple guys check me out while we were out and that just brought me absolute joy. The thought that a guy thought I was a girl made me so happy. But whenever I dress normally as a guy, I still dress to impress girls. I assume I'm bisexual, but I'm not sure what gender I should pursue for a relationship at this moment. I want a relationship with a guy, but that would just be a homosexual relationship. (I have no hate on gays. I love them to death. One of my best friends is gay.) I specifically want to be with a straight guy, but I can't have that kind of relationship because I'm still a guy. And if I crossdressed and met a guy, it would be hard to keep everything in check. I mean, what if he wanted to have sex with me? I don't have breasts and I don't have a vagina. Either I would have to constantly deny what he wants to do or I could only give him oral and eventually that would get boring after doing it so many times! At the same time though, I wouldn't mind being with a girl and making her happy. All I have to do is just not tell her about who I am really am. Who I want to be with is really confusing because the girl inside of me wants to be with a boy, but the guy on the outside of me wants to be with a girl. I want a physical and emotional relationship with a straight guy, but at the same time I want the same kind of relationship with a girl! So my question to you all is, should I wait until I change to a girl, so I can be with a guy? Crossdress and be with a guy, but not be able to take it to a fuller extent? Should I just settle for a girl until I change to a girl? Or should I just not have a relationship with either gender?

Being totally honest, I think you should stay male. All you'd really need to do is find a homosexual relationship with a guy who is okay with you doing drag. Going to gay bars (when you're of age) is a good place to start. Many have drag competitions which you could enter to help you catch someone's eye.

Go with Crisis on this kid. If you really are bisexual & a crossdresser, it's best to play it safe and not do something so irreversible and drastic. After all, u don't know which gender your soulmate might be, and some might not like the idea of being with you with a body that's not necessarily yours... there's also a thread describing different sexualities and how people react to sex change operations somewhere in Personal I think.

i would not do anything too drastic until you are absolutely sure who you want to be with, unless you are ok with being a girl dating another girl. i know that, if you are really a girl in a boy's body, you will probably feel better with the right body anyways, but it never hurts to be sure first.

as for dating, that could be tricky. one thing i can't endorse is dressing up like a girl to trick a straight boy. he has every right to know what he is getting into and you shouldn't try and deceive him, cause that can't end well. if you really want a relationship with a guy, i suggest either someone who is flexible with their sexuality, someone who understands this subject and that you are a girl mentally and will have a girl's body eventually, or settle for a straight gay (a gay guy who isn't 'camp or flamboyant').

i wont sugar coat this: things aren't as easy as they should be for transgendered people. dating sounds like a nightmare. but i imagine with the right people and enviornment, you'll pull through just fine.