SO, today i want to address something. I want to address the fact of loving yourself. I dont understand why people act differently with others, and try to make themselves different. There is no reason for this, if you act a certain way, embrace it. Dont let others judge you, who cares.

For me, i'll honestly admit i'm a perverted minded guy, i have lewd photo's n my laptop right now, and i like them, i like my collection. I will admit that i am geeky and a arsehole, i dont like girly girls and stuff, i'm bisexual, and im a really feminine guy myself, but, i dont let others get the best of me.
I like a girl right now, and she dosent judge me, and i might ask her out soon, we get along perfectly, we are into the same things, and all of that, its great. do you know how long it took me to find friends relativly like me growing up? 14 years. in 9th grade, i found my friends. and now, after highschool, we are still friends. yes, it may seem like you have to act different to fit in, but dont, you will find your group, or person eventually, dont let hope fade away, dont judge others, and just stay happy.

It's wonderful that you've formed such a deep bond with someone ^^ However, if you are looking for an answer to your question I might be able to help. In my own personal experience, so this doesn't apply to everyone, I don't actually think of myself as a nice person and so I pretend to be someone else, see? Other reasons could include a person with trust issues, a manipulative person who only makes friends for goals or there are just some people who don't believe that there are other people like them and so pretend to be somebody different. It could also be because of social or parent pressure. I think I've answered your question but I've made it too long, sorry about that ^^'

Ohhhh, but like, i mean, i understand that, but why do people censor themselves with their "friends" if they are your friends, wouldent they be okay with the uncensored completely 10000% real you?

I think that people come to see themselves in a certain way; and then see their ideal. They realize that they aren't the same as their ideal, so they try to change themselves to live up to that ideal. They form some sort of "persona" in order to become that ideal, and that causes people to see them as that "persona". And after that, the person can't really go back to who they were, because, otherwise, their reputation as their "ideal" will be ruined. For example, in school I'm often seen as "the quiet one", "the nice one", and "the smart one", but that's not really me. It's just that those are the things I wanted to be, so I adapted to that "persona", and other people saw me that way.

I'm sorry, that was a really bad explanation, but I hoped that you were somehow able to get an answer out of that.

I like your way of thinking. You seem to follow this Dr.Seuss quote, "Speak your mind. Those you matter don't mind whereas those who mind don't matter". Openness is the way to go.

I will say this though, I'm not judging the kind of person you are because I don't know what it's like being in your position and I think I understand (to an extent) why you are you. People naturally have attractions to people so being perverted is just natural. Some try to fight it but I don't know if they can ever ignore it. Some people might just have stronger urges and just need it. You seem like a good kind of person so if it's just the thoughts you have then you aren't hurting anyone and as long as you can differentiate it from reality you should be fine. With being bisexual I see it as a way of looking at everyone equally. If the 'perfect' person out there for you happens to be the same gender than you then it can't be helped. Also, you might just naturally like people of both genders and people like me can't understand because we naturally only like one gender. The way I see if you still care about others and don't intentionally hurt them then the other things don't matter.

With what you said of people acting different around people I think of it as playing dirty or untruthful. If they want to be friends with them then they try to act in a way that they think the other would like. It's not the way it was meant to be. But most people do it, so you end up with friends who aren't even being themselves. This is a lot like my thread in the personal section on not having real friends.

I highly respect you not only for because you are secure in who you are even if it goes against the flow but mainly because you're open. You are a real person who people see the real you. Well done :D

>>3 oh, like that? Some people just don't actually have a real friend' or they might be scared that if they did uncencor themselves nobody would wouldlike them and then they'd be alone. It's quite sad (」ﾟヘﾟ)

I also do not like how certain people act differently around different people, but it is needed sometimes. It is mentally taxing to be all of yourself all the time, so some people prefer to have different types of friends and this works better for them. Each of my friends puts me in a different mood, and there are things we both enjoy, but there are also things that would be better if I talked about them with somebody else.

It is natural to fall into the same wavelength as those who you are around, but you should not be pretending to be someone who you are not. You should allow yourself to ACTUALLY change.

If I talk to someone happy then that makes me happy, that is not a bad thing. If I talk to a friend who likes torturing people(or something else relatively obscure), then I will think about why they enjoy torturing people and if I could enjoy it too. If I did not believe I would enjoy it, I would politely leave or request we do something else... Or possibly just try to ignore the torturing if that wasn't possible.

People don't only try to act in a different way, they only try to not be different from others. They refer themselves to others, so they won't be rejected. These cowards are afraid of loneliness. Unfortunately, the society don't accept difference. To merge into it, you have to be "normal". Although, while pretending to be "normal", they lost consciousness of being their own selves. Acting during their whole life, they forgot who they realy are. Therefore, how do you want them to be themselves? They will only live in confusion with their mask on. For ever and ever and ever. How hilarious. Humans are just too stupid.