This is going to be long but I need help. I have a boyfriend but there is this other guy. I'm not a two-timer. I love my boyfriend but this other guy is making me fall for him without him knowing. I tell both of them everything about myself. I even tell this other guy more than my boyfriend because I don't want him to break up with me. I know it sounds wrong to tell the other guy more but there is only one thing he knows that my boyfriend doesn't. I don't know how freaked out my boyfriend will be when he finds out I'm bi and that's why I never told him. Only 1 other person knows and she's bi too so I knew I could trust her. Any way I love both of them and worst part is they are best friends. If I stay with my Boyfriend I will loose the other guy permanently. If I leave my boyfriend there is no guarantee the other guy likes me and its not like I can just ask him. I can't hurt either of them but I don't think I could survive loosing either of them. I just don't know how to feel and I know I'm starting to hurt the other guy. I needed time to think about my feelings but he messaged me over Facebook. I asked him to leave me alone and I had been ignoring him for the past week before that. He was really hurt that I said that and he said I had changed for the worse. I can't help but believe him. I'm sorry that I'm hurting him and I just don't know what too do anymore. Please tell me how to fix this. Tell me how I get through this with keeping both at least as friends.

"I'm not a two-timer, but I'm totally two-timing my boyfriend right now."

What a typical young girl thing to say.

You want to know how to fix it?
Be faithful.
You obviously don't care about your boyfriend or you wouldn't do this to him and you wouldn't keep secrets from him.
Secrets that you are telling someone else behind his back.

It's kind of disgusting that most people think the way you do.
You want a simple way out?
Stop being a child and make a fucking choice.
Live with the choice and the effects it has on your life.

You can't string people along because you have feelings for both of them.
It's unfair to them and it makes you seem like a bad person.

I'm sorry you feel this way and you're right. I need to make a choice. I just need to figure out which one is the right one.

>>3 And in the meantime maybe you shouldn't be so selfish.
You should think about both of their feelings.

What you are doing is wrong. If it were being done to you, this post would be a bunch of boohooing about how you hate players or whatever.

The irony being that you are the bad person in this situation.

What they don't know may not hurt them...but it sure says a lot about you and what kind of person you'll grow up to be.

If you want my advice, it's better to not live a lie.
Stop being a coward and take accountability for your actions.
If neither of them want to be your friend, I wouldn't blame them.
But at least you will be able to say that you bowed out with some amount of dignity.

Just follow your heart. Yeah, easy thing to say. Maybe you just should be friend with both of them. Because you love them both, there's no good choice.

Well, if you're looking for stability, stay with your boyfriend. Better stay with what you've got than take a chance, I guess.
But, overall, I agree with Chreggome. If you really care about them, you wouldn't lie to them. Make your choice and stick to it.

>>1 Chreggome is 100% right. There was a quote and it went something like this: "If you're stuck between two guys, go for the second guy because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second one." I think you should decide between the two of them and soon or you'll just keep hurting both. Also talk with your boyfriend about it, if he really loves you he'll understand your confusion. Good luck ^^