I learned that my step father married my mother for money... The money he wants to take it's the money she traded her life for...

This made me wonder why people would marry for money,

Really, marriage was supposed to be the faithful union of two people, loving, trusting and sticking together 'till the end.

Now these truthful meanings are gone and all that's left are money..

>marriage was supposed to be the faithful union of two people, loving, trusting and sticking together 'till the end.
Hardly true. Pragmatic marriage has a rich and long tradition spanning many centuries. Back in the day people would get their marriage arranged by their parents out of money/political/status concerns, sometimes a decade before they are actually adult and ready for marrying. Now people simply have more freedom and can do it by themselves.

I guess I'm doing a fairly bad job at cheering your up, but duh. I am a dick.

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Actually, Araya is correct in this assessment. The concept of "Marry for love" is actually fairly new to society - For years and years marriage was simply arranged by the parents in an effort to secure their family's trade or social/monetary standing.

You can thank Hollywood and authors for the digging the "Marry for Love" concept into our head.

It's not so much "all that's left is money", as it is "Money is still a contributing factor".

Now if his goal was to take her money and then leave her (and you, by this time), then that is a substantially different situation and has been both socially unacceptable and frowned upon even during the beginning of the whole 'pragmatic marriage' concept. Married is Married, up until very recently - whether you liked it or not, you're stuck with the person you married unless they died.

But I'm curious, what do you mean she traded her life for money? If you don't mind me prying of course.

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is it me or is this supposed to be more about the trust behind the act then the actual act? if so, then i probably cant help too much in that regard as i'm probably the most untrusting paranoid bastard you can ever meet. i really really wish i could get over this. it seems to be the major thing getting between me and the people i love. i always tell people to be more trusting. sure it may seem hypocritical, but i'm just trying to keep them from being a wreak like me who has to fight the idea of my loved ones betraying me out of my head on a daily basses. not a good way to live.

if it is about marriage, i know i'd only go though with for the sake of my partner. i can live without it, and if they are indifferent i'd just avoid it. if i do end up tying the knot it will be because i love the person i'm with, even if everyone else sees it though jaded colored glasses. i have nothing against marriage in the slightest as long as the parties involved are doing it for reasons important to them, and they are being honest about there motives.

thats y u should marry poor, then both of you will basically have nothing but love to marry on :O srry, buys ure replies were too long and like Bacurik said, im lazeh xD but, wat if someone married someone for muney and then the person with money spent all their moolah on the wedding? wat would happen? @_@

Haha, I'm pretty sorted by teh time I'm writing this: I decided that he's a dick of all. And, ironically, all of his side of family agrees with that view.

And @king, I'm in practically same shoes as you; I can't trust people any more! (Actually gone genophobic)But I still believe there would be a person I would really like to be with, and decide when that time comes.

And yes, marriage has always been a tool for politics and power. But truthfully,marriage in its truest concept (set by many religions, the base of our morality) is faithful union of two people who would be stuck with each other forever, and never betray each other.

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