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Help to make a life decision (3)

1 Name: Fredo : 2023-11-22 14:04 ID:DX9yXixM [Del]

I need help to make a life decision and I don't know which decision is correct, long story short I was forced by my family to go to another country to study and live but I didn't want it in the first place I was satisfied with what I had in my country I tried talking to them I told them I don't want to go but they didn't care and forced me to go which led to my life crashing and breaking down, ever since I came to this country I didn't feel welcomed the people aren't nice and they tend to ignore me and look down on me I tried my best to ignore them and be on my own but I can't, I also lost my friends from my homeland everyone is busy with their studies and life and they don't have time for us to talk or play together, I tried my best to continue living here, I've spent 7 months in this country and I still feel unwelcomed, NOTE: I am not good at the language of this country. For me to be able to study in this country I have to be able to take this language test so I can't study in college but I couldn't do it, I did this test like 3 times and I couldn't pass it I kept failing and failing and now I am afraid of failing again and the worst part is my family aren't making it easy for me too they keep pressuring me and disrespecting me and pulling me down, this is literally one of the worst years of my life, I lost everything I had, my girlfriend, my friends, my college life, I always feel alone and I always feel like no one wants to be with me or listen to me. I always try my best to do better but my family doesn't recognize my efforts and always pull me down. Losing all of those things didn't make it better and not being able to make friends in this country is even worse. I wasn't able to enter college this year but this country's government gave me a dead line by the end of February to try and enter in the second semester but I don't think I will be able to pass the exam this time too, I need time to get better at the language and to be able to pass the exam, because even tho I can pass the exam studying in college with a different language that you aren't good at is going to be a pain so I am thinking of going back to my homeland, what's holding me from going back is the fact me and my family spent so much money for me to be able to go to this country and that I am scared that I will regret going back to my homeland, I am gonna be 2 years late than my old friends which is gonna be a shame I have to deal with and it's gonna be annoying to go back to the country where people envied me for being able to go live in another country, I am also scared that I might mess up so please I want to hear your ideas. If I stay in this country I might get kicked out of the country for not being able to enter college and it might even be a worse chock for me, I don't want to start working because I worked so hard and studied so much to be where I am right now with my school certificates and my good marks I am afraid to throw all of that and get a random job. this is a life decision and my future is hung on this, I want to go back to my country but I don't at the same time the shame of me going back and the shame that I will be late than my old classmates and friends and family is gonna be with me the whole time it's like I failed 2 years in college so I don't know what to do whether I stay in this country or go back to my homeland.

2 Name: L0op : 2023-11-24 11:27 ID:0nmWHCqY [Del]

I don't think you should stay. If you didn't even want to go in the first place, you will never find the motivation to learn an entire new language and to study.
I think the ideal scenario would be, you return to your homeland, but not to your family, who don't seem to support you in a way that will lead you to happiness. Find a job, a small apartment, stand on your own two feet. Find new friends, reconnect to old ones who you still want in your life. When you're ready, you can still study, but this time you're not being pressured into it, and you can do it on your own terms. There's no shame in taking a break and figuring out what you want to do with your life.

3 Name: Fredo : 2023-11-26 19:22 ID:SHB8ncQD [Del]

>>2
Thank you, thank you very much for taking time to listen to me and give me an answer I really appreciate it, you don't know how much this meant to me, I love you with all my heart and wish you the best in your life, may you find eternal happiness my friend.