I realized that i that i'm not charismatic at all and have pretty bad social skills sometimes i repel people i wanna get close to. I want to be able appear charismatic with people and get them to like me easily but i dont know where to start.

My best friend who I was jealous of in HS always told me to just try and be funny. It never worked for me until way after college.Though always trying to be funny is hard. Start by laughing with others

For the bad social skills, you can work on it. I used to have bad communication skills when I was younger and just didn't click with a lot of people. So I tried talking to myself, read scripts (theater play and broadcasting), and pretty much thought about how I'd respond to almost every line I read in manga and hear in anime. It was hard but I had all the years of primary school to be able to make a "social" self, and it's kinda paying off now in college since all my classmates and underclassmen seem to like me enough to ask me to hang out with them. I'm still working on it (since some people still tell me I speak weirdly), but it all comes down to understand how to read other people. It also helps to look interested when someone's talking to you since they get to feel like you're really listening to them.

Note: I don't have any speech problems. They just tell me my word choices are sometimes off and that I speak like I write essays. lol

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>talking to myself
like, pretending we're vlogging or something?

I do experience that reading a lot of stuff improves communication skills, though I did it a lot more with english than my mother tongue. Unfortunately, the skill level doesn't transfer over :(( which is why I can express myself really well in english, but not in my mother tongue. Which is... kind of a problem since english isn't that popular yet in this part of the world, and I have no intention of studying abroad, so rip that I guess, for now.

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Pretending to vlog can help, but it's more or less one-way communication. There is little interaction between the audience and the vlogger. I guess it'd help in collecting thoughts, but I think it fails in "connecting" with people. When I say talking to myself, it's more like I'm talking to a different person with similar likes, to discuss whatever idea I have in mind. Like how I'd tell "myself" how morally wrong it is to love Belial from GBF, but "myself" would justify that since it's fiction, it's fine. Or like I'd make a persona based on whoever character I felt like talking to and create a dialogue with me and them. Something like that. This actually helped me polish my spoken English throughout the years, but I started doing this in my mother tongue.

I never read books written in my mother tongue (unless required in school), but I did listen to the people around me while they talk, whether it was casual or serious. Then I pretend to act like those people and carry on a one-man performance in private. Yeah, I know it's bad to eavesdrop lol but I was a kid when I did this so it was fine. If watching and acting like the people around you feels VERY difficult, try re-enacting some drama scenes. It's not as awkward as copying the people you know.