So I've become aware that my boyfriend is financially struggling, so much that he may need to stop going to school. I know this case is not really that uncommon, but as his girlfriend, I want to graduate with him together since we're on our senior year. He's struggling with tuition fees and school-related expenses for quite some time now but he and his family somehow manage. It's just this time that's bad.

He's never asked me for help financially, and I never made him spend his money on me. He also doesn't tell me much about his financial issues because he doesn't want himself to become a burden on me. Now that he told me he might stop for a while, I want to contribute to his school-related expenses (i.e. tuition fee, lab materials) even if it's just a little. I told him a few days ago that I was willing to shoulder a quarter of the expenses and he could pay me back whenever he has extra money to spend. He told me that I don't really have to.

Our anniversary's coming up soon and I am thinking that I'd secretly pay a few installments worth of his tuition. Am I being too demanding and stepping out of the line? I know it's selfish of me to make this decision, but is it really that bad? I'm quite insensitive sometimes so I don't know.

It's been some time since you posted this but I don't think it's out of the line, you just want to help him. He may be angry with you if you do it without his permission though, but it seems as it you want to do it as an anniversary's gift so I don't think it is bad. Also if he really wants to continue with his studies and graduate like you do, I think he will be grateful.

It can be a little burden in your conscience if someone helps you and you just want to make up for that, so probably your boyfriend could feel bad bc of that, but it depends in the person. You knowing him better, should know how he is, so my advice, even if it may not be the best is to just follow your instincts and heart and do what you think is right.

Yoooo, it's been a few days and he's being very adamant on not wanting to be indebted to me. I did not consider the repercussions of my idea if I really go with it.

I now understand that this can burden him emotionally and mentally so I'm backing out. Although not entirely, as I'm still willing to stick to this the moment he drops any hints of stopping school. If anything, I'll just start to save more so that I can help him when the time comes that he asks for help. For now, I'll just lie low.