Does anyone else here have a rlly weird dysfunctional family? Like idk I just had a super terrible encounter with my mom and I kinda just realized "oh shit this is the norm for me". Like she just started crying Abt how much she hates how my father is and how much she envies my aunt (her sister) for having a good husband, and that we aren't gonna do anything for Easter cus she's so fed up with everything. (For the record i have tried to help before but she always says I'm doing something wrong and then she blows it out of proportion- like she gets like this over something as small as washing dishes, and then I usually feel like shit and she feels like shit so whenever I try to help, I try and ask her very specifically what she wants. She gets annoyed with that too but it's better than the alternative. This results in me not being able to help as much as I would want to.) So there isn't much I can do and her kinda using me as a punching bag for everything that has gone wrong on her life is sort of a normal thing for me but I still hate it. Other than that my family is super weird and ever since I was little things seemed rlly off. There is more stuff but I don't want to bore anyone else with it on this thread. So my question is, does anyone else experience things like this? Is this why I have normalized it so much?

In short, Yes.

And it's gotten more destructive as time goes on. Each generation trying to uphold the previous traditions while implementing their own clauses & conditions, and removing points of tradition that are no longer imperative for growth & security.

All you can do is help yourself grow past it and understand what makes you happy.

They can only do the same. If she holds on to the idea that she needs x y z to be happy instead of seeing she has a b c to be happy about; if she can only compare herself to others as a measure of worth; there's nothing you can do to help. Just be sure you understand your worth and recognize each day the things you have to be happy about. For your sake.

I'm struggling currently with my brother. We're fighting about an agreement that was broken by him. He went back on his word and apparently, as he is my elder, his reason and understanding always tops mine.

So my explanation to why it wasn't OK to go back on his word, becomes an arguement. He blames our father's abusive upbringing for why I'm cross with him for blatantly breaking a promise. No consideration for the consequences I have had to deal with for his actions.

We've been having this argument for almost a year. I'm so sick and tired of him dangling hope in front of me. It's been psychological warfare with him, while I am trying to learn to live a daily life with a debilitating illness. There far more misunderstanding about herself, that she must be willing to seek help for. As I am. I would like to have relationships with people while I live with this illness. I would like my illness not to burden those in my life. But the illness is something I cannot control, and so are other people. So I will always be at odds.

Best I can do is find a balance and ensure no Interference against the delicate nature of the illness, and breathe my way through each day until the doctors can help me with a consistent solid program to survive with. Those who wish to interfere deliberately have no right to another chance, whatever blood or creed.


I have no time for petty squabbles. Family drama is on the top of my list of things to remove from my life for my own good, and for their own good. It's no gain for anyone to try and tell them right and wrong, just the same way they want to tell me how my illness works. No gain either way.

There are people in the world to help with this. You're not a therapist and she isn't either. She needs to see someone, and you need to back up far enough not to get caught in the wake of her struggles. They're not your burdens to bear. Help her see a professional if you must. There are cheap ones, even free student interns in certain locations.

I fight tooth and nail to avoid people setting off my symptoms. They have no obligation to understand, but for the people who willfully misunderstand and hurt you just to be right or test you;

Nothing bad can come from taking them out of your life as soon as you are safely able to do so.

Hello, I have not been on this website for a while and I just saw this and I don't know where you are but I just want to say thank you- I will try and do the things that you have suggested, although getting her to see a therapist will be a bit difficult I am going to try, I think this may be the best option.

I can understand having sibling issues, I am currently having some with my own older brother at the moment, and I truly hope things are getting better and that the burden gets lighter- even a little bit, soon.


On another note, please try and keep hoping. things are tough and I can't promise life will change for the better, but life does change.

I am not very good with writing or words, and this is no where as well put as I would hope but I just wanted to wish you happiness and for your illness to become better soon, which ik is easier said than done. This gave me a bit more confidence to confront these issues and it means a lot for me. Thanks again.