So lately I've been having attachment problems with my significant other and also having serious paranoia when it comes to them too. I'm always so scared that they're going to leave me or if they're going to cheat on me and stuff. I've been crying so much lately and I feel like I'm starting to bother them. Also, I've been having problems focusing on work because of the stress too. What should I do?

well to be frank you could see a therapist about it to help release some of the stress or talk to someone you know and trust.

Ok,thank you for the suggestion. I'll try talking to someone about it

Do you both understand how to love one another where the recipient recognizes such as love?

In otherwords, have you explained to them how you most want to receive love, what makes you feel loved, what makes you lose your trust, what makes you doubt that love ~

These questions are not easily answered. It takes time and work and uncomfortable, vulnerable communication. It's not just labels, physical contact, and proximity.

Both of you need to ask and answer these questions. You also, most importantly, need to understand what to separate from the relationship. Your fear about being cheated on, barring any viable evidence, is only a fear~ Your fear, to be precise, which means it is not their responsibility. But to be in constant doubt and never express how you best understand love~ youre making the same mistakes as everyone else. This much is an agreement when going into a relationship. You both have agreed to share your lives, but the relationship should not be an answer to your fears and potential insecurities.

You have to ask yourself why you are in a relationship. Filling a void? A loneliness? Need a distraction from the state of life and the world? Sometimes too, we mistake respect for love and find ourselves where we know in our hearts we don't belong.

Do you want to be revered, worshipped, and surrendered to? or do you want to experience life beside another human in observance and support of their own free will and personal growth as you live your own life? You must learn about this person and secondly teach them about you~ and if they show no Interest in learning who you are, all the good and bad, then these thoughts of leaving may be your own. Is this relationship ship helping you grow or is it hurting you?

Sometimes the body urges us to let go, like dropping a weight to save yourself from drowning. Turn the focus on you, analyze your self worth, and if it's lacking ~ you need to take time for yourself, by yourself, to learn again how to love yourself. If you think so highly of them that you think you dont deserve them~ that's on you to improve yourself and to reassess your own self worth. Two sides of one coin really~ improvement will breed self worth, and self worth breed improvement.

The idea of stagnating happens to a lot of people when they're in relationships, because they think thats the goal. Once the label is set, they seek to be accepted as they are and drop all pursuits which they believed necessary to have worth and to earn a significant other that wouldn't betray them.

Stop thinking they're trying to wrong you, see the path of self sabotage you're own, and focus on yourself. If they love you they'll follow along and watch you grow with joy and support you as you go. If they don't follow then they only held you down from day one and you must see yourself as someone who deserves and can be loved by someone who is faithful by principle.

But you have to learn how to trust others, how to communicate your needs, how to realize a relationship isn't everything we believed it was, and how to keep living your life growing and pursuing your dreams.

Do you know your significant other to be faithful by principle? Or have you been hopeful that it went without saying? Or maybe you were scared they would lie about such a question from the beginning? I mean if that's who they are, but what do you really know?

I promise there have been worse relationships that have lasted a lifetime and both parties cheated. Not everyone works on extremes, but this extreme thinking will push them away. You know it too.