There's this guy who is basically like my brother and we promised eachother that we'll stay together forever. (but not in a romantic or sexual way) I started to notice that I've been starting to have an abnormal obsession with him; I can't stop thinking about him, I like stalking him, I am very overprotective of him etc... We're very close and he also knows about my obsession with him so don't worry. we both talk to eachother daily, we talk to eachother at school, and we like talking things out when something is wrong. Now that we're older, I thought about what would happen if he gets a girlfriend. I mean there's nothing wrong with getting a girlfriend but then he'll stop paying attention to me, he'll care about her more than me, and he'll possibly forget about me. Since I'm a very honest person I told him about how I feel and also asked him why he wants one. He said sex, cuddles, and kisses. Since I'm obsessed with him and don't really care about a lot of things he does to me,I said "Then why not me?" I was disappointed when he told me that he feels bad for me and stuff. (I forgot to say, but I don't have a crush on him. I'm just very obsessed with him and would do ANYTHING to stay together forever. ) I asked him "Do you really need me?" He answered "I want you. (As a friend ofc) Who would I text at night, give me hugs, gives me headpats, and you're pretty much the only girl who cares about me a lot right now!" I wanted to say "Then get a girlfriend." But I didn't want to start a fight. There was also this one time when I asked him "If I became your girlfriend then would you be with me for the rest of your life?" and he said that he can't really take me as his girlfriend since he thinks of me as a sister. I'm being honest here, if he gets a girlfriend and stops paying attention to me and loving me, I think I actually might go crazy and either 1. Kill his girlfriend so that he can be with me or 2. Commit suicide before any of that happens (most likely I'll choose the 2nd one) and I also explained that to him. In the end I decided, when he stops caring and loving me, I'll die. I know that people will have mixed feelings about this. Some people might think "You're too obsessed with him. Go to a mental hospital" and some people might think "Aw that's sweet, you just want to be with the most important person in your life forever!" Or something and that's completely fine, but please no hate. I just wanted some advice on what I should do next. I promised him that until then we'll pretend that nothing happened but I feel empty. He said that he doesn't know if he's ever going to get a girlfriend but I'm still scared that one day he might leave me for good. I'm just scared and don't know what to do. Im scared. That pretty much all I have to say. Thank you for reading this crazy long story about my messed up situation with the most important person in my life.

Sounds like either infatuation or just wanting to be around someone who makes you feel good.

sounds like a relationship to me bro

I used to be obsessed with this guy and he knew about it, eventually he decided to leave me to rot and wait for him for a year, it was a living hell and broke me. I suggest you get away from him the best you can before it turns into something that will harm you. You should work on yourself and distract yourself from your thoughts of him, heck maybe even cut him out of your life totally. I know it seems like you can’t but it will only hurt you more if you stay obsessed over him.

I’m saying this out of experience because nobody should go through that kind of pain

>>4 but what if he feels the same way towards me? I talked to him a little more and lately he's been very needy and close to me (Like hugging me for no reason and telling me to stay) and I forgot to mention but he does say "I love you" quite a lot (as a friend I think) So idk if I should listen to you immediately or maybe I should see how things turn out

Update: he gives me head pats now :3

I would to give you advice on this, but I would like to conversate with you. If it is alright with you. I feel the best advice comes out when speaking with someone instead of waiting for a reply that may never come. Let me know soon please. I understand if you decline. Good Luck^^

I wouldn't mind talking to you about this so I accept your offer!

Sorry I read that wrong. I meant the opposite. I decline your offer. Sorry (´•ω•`)

I am curious as to how you took it. Would you mind telling me what you thought I said? Not mad, just trying to be helpful^^.

I kinda rushed it and lied. at first I wanted to but I'm usually busy so I didn't want to do it when I thought about it more

Ah, I understand. Then I wish you luck. If you want to talk privately, this thread is how youll fine me^^.