hi. i have a friend (who's 16) that's staying in cali for the summer. he told me how his sister & her bf were getting paid by his mom to take care of him. that upset him because he thinks that means his sister will only take care of him unless she benefits from it. he also told me how he got into an argument with the bf, leading bf to take his ps4 controller & refusing to give it back, saying how my friend is acting disrespectful. my friend told me that he's afraid that the bf is going to end up physically attacking him because bf is getting more & more aggressive everyday. friend's mom (who's back at our state) tried helping him by trying to convince his sister to just give back his ps4 controller but that didn't work, leading to his mom to just give up and tell him to just listen to the bf. my friend also told me how this reminds him of his time when he was in a mental hospital, he couldn't get help anywhere & he has to bottle up his emotions.

it's fucking frustrating knowing all of this yet being unable to help him. if anyone lives in cali & knows how he can get help, please tell me!

I don't live in Cali, and I can't say this will help. But your friend should at least try.
See, there can be charges pressed against a physical abuser, or someone who physically harms another.
Let your friend be aware of this, and use it as a threat against his sister's boyfriend. But he does need to stand up to him. If he doesn't, the boyfriend will feel that much more powerful, and won't stop.
And bottling your emotions up won't help the situation, either. Even if not in person, he should rant, get it all out of his system to anyone he can, preferably a friend. If you two are friends, you should be there for him, allow him to vent to you. You don't have to say anything in return, but listen. Listening does a lot more healing than anyone might think.
But you should encourage your friend, as well. Give him the strength to stand up to this guy. And if he ends up being physically damaged, he should alert authorities. Not all cops are as terrible as people think, either.
Anyways, my point is: don't hide in fear, and don't tell your friend to, either. Stand strong and tall, no matter what happens. If you want things to change, you have to take a step towards changing them yourself sometimes.

I live in that state but probably far away from them and I recommend telling a mandated reporter.

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hi sorry for the late reply. he managed to calm the situation down & get his controller back but today it got worst. he was poking his sister's baby's forehead & she told him to stop but i guess the bf thought he was hurting her so he told my friend to never touch his baby again or else he'll fuck him up. he also told him to "get the fuck out of his house" so my friend tried leaving but the bf tried grabbing friend's phone before failing to do so & hit him on the side. my friend ran away for about 39 minutes & he was out there for about 2 hours - mind you, it started at around 8:30 & he stopped at a little caesars at 9:26 - before he finally got through his mom (who's in romania rn). his mom asked her best friend to take him in & my friend said that it's much livelier & cozy at her place than it was at his sister's but he can't trust her husband yet although he did tell me that her husband is acting nicer to him than the bf did when he first arrived in cali.

the bf tried putting my friend in a mental hospital (my friend takes medication for suicide & was abused basically his whole life) but he wasn't able to so yeah. it was scary texting my friend while being unable to help him but im so relieved to hear that he's in a place with a better environment & i hope they continue to stay at least cordial towards him.