so this is gonna be weird but i have some questions about something i figure at least one other peson on the dollars must have experience with.

basically i want to look more feminine, and to be more feminine in general. I'm not trans, at least not by my definition because while i want the hips and the breasts i want to keep my dick and keep it fuctioning. now i was suprised to hear that apparently getting more estrogen in your body doesn't lower your testosterone and therefor wouldn't lead to something like erectile dysfunction? is that true?

Also, for those trans dollars that where able to, where would i even go about trying to get estrogen or some other hormone to help me with this?

ALSO also, i'm gonna admit i'm kind of a moron, i dont know how to like, schedule a doctor appointment to begin with. I'm only recently an adult and moved out, my dad signed me up for this insurance plan through the state but IDK how to like, use the information on this card he gave me. I just dont know what to do or how to do it.

i'm lost and uninfomed. someone help here.

i tried googling this stuff and all that came up where sketchy sites and stuff for women going through menopause.

Hello, it is me, the most active openly trans Dollar, here to assist.

First of all, I would strongly recommend thinking about your gender a bit more. Plenty of trans people keep their original genitals for whatever reasons they have. For some, it just doesn't cause them dysphoria. For others (especially trans men given our options), the surgery just isn't worth getting when comparing the results to the risks and costs. Having a desire to have a body that is seen as more female is a significant sign that you could actually be trans. You can be a man and be feminine, absolutely, but men... typically don't want to develop breasts.

Second, I do NOT recommend just jumping to hormones. Hormones can cause irreversible changes and can also just mess with your mental health. This is why you typically have to start with a therapist before you can be given hormones. And if you go on hormones without being trans, it CAN give you gender dysphoria. So I would recommend first starting with temporary changes, which would mean wearing breast forms and maybe doing makeup to give a more feminine face? I know that there are also shaper things you can wear to change how your hips look. By doing this, you can see if that's actually stuff you feel comfortable with before making it permanent. If after some experimentation you find that hormones would be right for you, then you can start getting into that.

As for starting hormones, there's three ways I can think of.
The first is through informed consent. This is what I did. You'll have to find a clinic that offers informed consent HRT. In the US, some Planned Parenthoods will offer this, so that's a good place to start looking at. Informed consent works by the patient saying that they are aware of all the effects and risks of HRT and want to be on it. You have to sign a bunch of papers and have to be mentally capable of making your own medical decisions. Then, you'll get a blood test done and receive a prescription for your hormones! I got my prescription after just one appointment.
The second way is what is seen as the typical way. You first see a gender therapist (or have your primary care doctor refer you to one) and from there, you sort out your gender issues. If you and your therapist agree that hormones are for you, you'll be referred to an endocrinologist, where you'll have your blood tested and discuss your HRT options and get a prescription. This takes longer than informed consent, but this is what I highly recommend for those who aren't 100% of their gender identity. I don't know the full details of this process though, since I went with informed consent (since I was confident in my identity and had wanted to be on hormones for 6 years prior to starting).
The third way is DIY, which I do NOT at all recommend. It takes a lot of knowledge to pull DIY hormones off safely and you will not be able to get it covered by insurance. This is usually seen as a last resort for people who are absolutely sure they want hormones and have not been able to get them in a safer way. Please do not do this if you don't have to.

As for erectile dysfunction... it depends. Hormones affect each person differently. It's a POSSIBLE effect of HRT for people born male, but not guaranteed. Although, you typically do not want to be taking only estrogen. Transfem people also take testosterone blockers. The reason? Testosterone is incredibly powerful. Taking only estrogen while leaving your testosterone as is won't really do too much. Basically, you'll only get minimal changes. You're correct that taking estrogen won't lower your testosterone levels (you actually already have estrogen in your system! everyone has both!). But lowering your testosterone levels is what makes the estrogen able to take effect. Idk much about how this side of HRT works, since I went the other direction with it, but it's definitely something you'd have to discuss with your doctor to figure out what would be right for you.

I hope that I was able to help some!