So my friend and her boyfriend broke up,, a couple months ago

So much has happened between me and her since, and now we aren't really friends. I'll explain what happened. When they broke up I would check up on her every now and then and when she was being suicidal, I'd text her mom to let her know. She called me selfish, saying that I was making it about me because I kept texting her family, making sure they keep an eye on her.
that urked me, days before that she ended our friendship over an argument over porn (we have been friends for nine years) and she only messaged me when she needed me for emotional support over their breakup. it was like, wow, im so selfish for putting myself out there and checking up on this person even though they only talk to me when *they* need someone to be there for them.

anyways, she called me selfish and i texted her and i told her i was done, i didnt want to be friends with her until she worked herself out and figured out that theirs people who care for her and want to be there for her if she lets them etc etc, she responded "only caring about yourself, classic sella"
anyways, i dont know what happened, she ended up messaging me a few days later and asking to hangout because she missed our friendship or whatever, and i said no because i was hurt

eventually, we decided to hangout again and we had a picnic and it was really nice. we enjoyed eachothers time and got along together and then she told me that she was gonna go to her ex's house (she was messaging his dad and telling him that she was suicidal// needed to see her ex so he agreed) and i told her that wasnt really good for either of them, because she has done alot to contact him and he told her he would get a restraining order on her if she continued) anyways, she went to his house, they "talked" and he basically said he wished it was how it was before all the manipulation and stuff/ (they broke up because she was "manipulative") and she texted me and said that it gave her hope because "she was already working on not manipulating and they can still live out their future together" and i was like eeeeeeeeeeeeeee i didnt say much, i said that i was a bit dissapointed because you know, shes borderline stalking her ex and he doesnt want to contact with her and she just keeps finding ways to and if she really loves him, she should stop putting him and herself through it.

my boyfriend talked about how her ex called her crazy, i sent her the ss to show the reality of how much he is upset at her, she messages my boyfriend yelling at him about how she is not crazy (shes not but shes been doing alot) and etc etc, keep in mind my boyfriend is friends with her ex, and she doesn't know him. I asked her not to message him, and she said "why? its not like im going to steal him from you?" which NOBODY said she was, anyways i asked her more and more to not text him and she said "my bestfriends boyfriend shouldn't hate me" and i said "he doesn't and you shouldn't be texting your ex's friends again." because she did alot after their breakup and she begged them to ask her ex to unblock her on stuff. wow this is such a long story im sorry, she said in response "I want to die, Sella" "whatever you guys can fucking hate me for all i care nothing i do is right for you" and i told her that " i dont understand why you always guilt others when they disagree with what you want/ say what you dont want them to say" "do you not understand how that is manipulative ???" and she ended our friendship saying that i dont respect her, that i think shes crazy, and "if you learn what youre doing wrong and get better, then find a way to get in touch, but until then, im done."

thats all,anyways, am i a bad friend?

Hey Sella,
In my opinion you're a too good friend and she knows it and she's taking advantage of your kindness. You gave her a lot of support in this whole situation and, tbh, I don't care how much she has suffered : she's the one who's being selfish. She clearly doesn't really care what those around her have to say and ignore them as if she was always right and she's not.
You're a good friend don't worry, but right now, she'll have to realize herself what she did to all of you. And when she realizes it and is ready to try and change, she'll apologize, considering that you've been friends for so long. If she doesn't stay away from her bcs she doesn't deserve you.
But let her be, and do nothing, it's the only way she'll get it.

I agree with Yato, seems like your friend is taking advantage of you. She can’t treat you like that and expect you to stick around, do what’s best for you. No matter what your relationship is, if it’s draining you and effecting you negatively, you’re better off without her

continuing the am i a bad friend saga, my exfriend is now in the psych ward and i am to blame for it. She has been messaging mine awnd her friends and her ex talking about how she is suicidal, how shes gonna kill herself if she doesnt gonna get her ex back, how they need to "move on after she dies"...

i emailed my guidance counselor about it and now she is in the psychward. am i a bad person? i singlehandedly put her in a place that i dont even know is good and i feel terrible

either way i hope she gets the help she deserves.

Nope, you're not a bad person nor a bad friend. You were worried about her despite her attitude (and that's really commendable) and you only told your counselor about that. You didn't say: "she's crazy do smth about it", you explained the situation and he/she and her parents were the ones who decided that it would be the best for her to be at a psychward. And, probably it will be good for her, to calm down. She clearly needs help so you did what you thought it was best for her, so no I'm repeating again, you're not a bad person :)

Yup, you’re not a bad person. Your friend seriously needs help & I hope she gets it, but don’t carry any guilt because of what’s happened. Ngl I probably would’ve dropped my friend hella quick so good for you for actually trying to help her. It’s kinda sad but again, it’s not your fault, hope she gets the help she needs!