Usually me and my dad don't talk at all, but sometimes when he gets mad for whatever the reason, I feel so so scared that I can't even focus on anything that I was doing at the moment, sometimes I even get nauseous. Even though the reason why he's mad has nothing to do with me or my other family members. Sometimes he just starts slamming the drawers or he just yells at his phone or at nothing. We have been on not so good terms for quite long, but he doesn't beat me or anything. I usually feel safe when my sister comes home, but I don't know what I'll do when she has to go back to her own. (She actually lives away from us) Being with my mom helps me feel a little bit safer too, but she won't be able to be with me because she'll be working night shifts only in the next weeks or months. I know I might be sounding a bit dramatic, but I just didn't want to shoulder these thoughts all by myself. Thank you <3

I totally understand your situation, I am sometimes in my own life put in a similar situation of fear. I feel that the best thing you can do is confront him about this, tell him that when he gets upset that it scares you, cry if you have to, though that might just happen naturally. There's a good chance that he simply isn't fully self-aware of his actions, and telling him yourself, even if it is scary, could work into solving the problem. This is assuming that he is able to stay in a decent mental state for a good portion of the day, in which that would be the best situation to confront this problem head-on. That's all I can recommend. When I was faced with a similar struggle from another individual and ended up breaking down in front of them over fear, they ended up trying their best to work on the problem and still are, and I feel much safer now. I wish you the best of luck in getting out of this problem, and take care stranger!

I'm glad that you were able to build up courage to confront that individual and things worked out and they're now doing their very best for you! Sound to me like they really care about you. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with me and giving me advice <3 I'm not sure if he'd care even if I did end up crying and telling him I'm scared, but I feel more hopeful now and like I want to try my best and keep pushing! Thank you again, especially for hearing me out :') I hope you both have a nice day!

Ah ofc and you too! Best of luck!

I know the feeling, I have it too but not from a father(which I don't have) but from my big brother, who it is the one taking care of out mother and I. I normally end up trying to talk but the words wouldn't come out as I wanted and end up running away to my room, waiting for everything to go away, but that doesn't really help with the situation... The fear can be so intense I sometimes end up feeling nauseous, with asthma/panic attacks or feeling like I can't breathe. I couldn't solve my case completely but... I want to help someway.

I'm not an expert but it is something I don't want anyone to feel so maybe I can help with that. The first thing would be knowing what exactly it is that cause you fear, the act of talking to your father or just his presence. Also knowing why that person(in your case your dad) is angry, can make you do something to stop him from that. Talking to him when he is calm and relaxed about what happens to you can be a good idea, if you are confortable with it.

Sometimes, when you don't talk much with someone you can start to feel far from that person, making it hard to talk or to feel even safe around with them, so it can help to try being more close to him, do things together, like eating at least once a week dinner together or playing any coop games or table games with him, watch movies together as a family day can also help. The thing is you maybe have that sense of insecurity and fear around him because you don't "know" him well(you can feel like he is a stranger but he is your father only because it is connected by blood (it is sure a strange feeling, I also felt it with my "father" figure and even with my mother so maybe it can be one of the reasons why))

As I said before Im no expert but I hope I helped a little, I wish you fix your feeling and start to feel calm around your father, good luck!

Hey Aisen, so sorry for the super late reply! The way you talked about how a person can feel far away from a family member helped me to understand my relationship with my father a bit more. I still don't feel very comfortable with the idea of interacting with him, so this kind of advice really helps :) thanks so so much, for the advice, for caring, and for just being there with me <3 I'm tired, but I'll try my best until I can get to rest! It sucks that you couldn't really have a concrete father figure in your life though, I just hope it can get better for you, and that you can have wonderful experiences.