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What do I should do? (4)

1 Name: Damia : 2021-03-23 11:18 ID:oags2D6s [Del]

Today I received the results of my scholarship.
I was really happy until I tell my family my results, I can get 30% of my tuition, I don't know why but my family react like that's was bad, they only say to me "That's little" and that only makes me feel bad like if I was a disappointment of my family.
This isn't only the first time each time I interactive with that situation.
Each time I am with them, I really feel sick, and with the shame of me.
What do I should do?
I can't go away from them because I underage, but now I really don't have confidence, and I think I already have depression
I need help or an advice

2 Name: Knight : 2021-03-23 22:19 ID:1TY+Ai0F [Del]

Continue what you were doing. You did great that was why you received scholarship. Receiving a scholarship is better than receiving nothing.If you really think that they are disappointed, make that a reason for you to work even harder. There comes a time where all your struggles will be paid off.

Don't prove yourself or else you will lose yourself in the process. Good job.

3 Name: Allereria : 2021-03-24 02:18 ID:YA6pds8f [Del]

>>1
Hey! I just want to let u know that you are doing great, and it is no small feat to be able to get a scholarship!! But I understand feeling sick around your family, like you've let them down, pretty well. What happens when you feel like that is usually ur mind goes into a loop of "I'm not good enough" or "Im a disappointment", bullshit like that. It is really important to avoid going into loops like that because eventually, they make you sick, and makes it really hard to work- or do anything, for that matter. So first, calm yourself down and know that you are doing your best, watch a nice movie, go for a walk, do something that makes you happy do something that is mindless.( Personally, i recommend studio ghibli movies) Don't wear tight clothing because it makes that anxious sickness waaaayyy worse, trust me. Also, If you live with people who are hard on you (it sounds like you do), absolutely do not cry infront of them. I've learnt from expirence that people like that usually believe that their feeling matter more that yours, and therefore you don't have a right to feel sad or anxious about THEIR reaction, and that usually makes them really mad, which can make things way worse. My advice is wait is out till you get to college, then you don't have to deal with shitty relatives, keep doing your best! :)

Don't be to hard on yourself, you deserve a good day. (Also I'm very proud of u!! Good work :D)

4 Name: Nekomeith : 2021-03-29 22:20 ID:9RXTttui [Del]

I can understand how you might feel, for me doing well in school was really important and I always felt horrid when I failed.
You did really good to get a scholarship! I know "full-ride" or 100% paid scholarships are all they talk about in movies, but those are actually pretty rare. I've had to work multiple jobs to pay for school even though I had a small scholarship.
Be proud of your achievements, and don't worry to much about what your family thinks, in their own way they just want what's best for you, even if they don't understand what that is.
Take it one step at a time and continue to work towards your future, you will be out of the house in your own due time so take this time to learn how to take care of yourself and be happy. I also highly recommend finding a family member, teacher, school counselor, or friend that you can talk to about your future and how you are feeling.
Good luck and I wish you the best!