Thank you for the replies.
>>2 I particularly agree with the "don't lead them on" part. Not in a sex context, but I kind of lead a girl on into thinking we are about to be a couple, but in fact I just wanted friendship. I still have issues with dividing friendship and relationship I guess. This is because I feel it is fine to flirt and even sext, with just a friend, but she thinks otherwise. Other than that, I guess I really should question the first time thing..
>>3 Yea.. I should not hurt anyone against their will regardless of what I want. And I do hate the feeling of just using someone for sex. Not really sure why I have this contradiction but I need to make sure whatever it is, I do not hurt anyone. I wish had a friend like yours too.