1 Name: Sammy : 2020-10-21 00:26 ID:tFtzAv9c [Del]
so im worried about coming out to my family who are fully against les and gay. How can i do that wna what can i do
2 Name: Neko !T5NEKOREJw : 2020-10-21 01:32 ID:NCjhL1lW [Del]
Depends on you and your circumstances. I don't know you or your family. Some families may turn around and celebrate their LGBT kids, while others will make their kids' lives hell.
If you're hesitating it's probably best to wait and see, at least until you're self-sufficient. Otherwise at least talk to a counselor/teacher/specialist worker that you trust beforehand.
3 Name: Skeptix : 2020-10-21 12:21 ID:PW4KWKly [Del]
You're really best staying closeted until you're comfortable or confident enough. Not sure how your living situation is like, but a family entirely feeding on homophobia doesn't look too bright. You'll probably have to keep it away from them until you're on your own.
4 Name: EpicKeith !K31THxH0Es : 2020-10-21 15:41 ID:dzAPtEb+ [Del]
Like the replies before me, I HIGLHLY suggest waiting until you can support yourself financially. It sucks to stay closeted, I know, I was closeted for years, but your safety is very important.
What helped me while closeted was finding communities around me to be with people like me who would support me until I was ready to come out. I was in GSA my freshman year of high school and made some LGBT friends. I also would ask to go to a friend's house sometimes and we'd go to One N Ten together. I was also in some communities online. Just try to surround yourself with support. Good luck and hang in there.
5 Name: omverse : 2020-10-22 00:41 ID:bilivfNx [Del]
I never want to say its not ok to want your parents to know who you are. But im going to be a bit contrarian here.
I just want you to consider if it matters that your family knows who you are interested in. I fully understand that you want your parents to accept you, but any given stranger who would react poorly takes no space in your heart. and for this particular matter, it should be the same.
At least, as others have said, wait until you have a safety net to fall into for worst case scenario. I thought a long while about what I was regarding this identity stuff, and nothing was more important or effective in improving my life than to work towards understand it myself. To work towards getting others to understand, let alone accept, especially if they still believe you are too young to have coherent, rationalized thoughts about yourself--- that may be futile, blood or not.
It might only ever be their business so they don't embarrass themselves reacting poorly at your wedding. Otherwise, what is it any of their business for anyway?
