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I need advice on best friends. Someone help. (3)

1 Name: Jun : 2020-09-11 22:07 ID:B3lQBAQR [Del]

My best friend and I have been friends since grade 2, the first one to ever approach me. Lately, she's been kind of distant. Because of Covid, we haven't been able to hang out. School just started, and we aren't in the same classroom, we can't see each other until lunch. Me being a coward has been staying inside the class to eat lunch rather than going out to meet others.
She made a new friend. Now I'm feeling worse. Every time I see her, she's always with her. Usually, we just sit to talk about anime and other small things. She doesn't talk to me about anything that bothers her, she doesn't trust me. She clearly said she doesn't trust me (as a joke, still hurts though). It hurts me that she says those kind of things. I still love her though. People say I'm to loyal. Am I?!
I don't know what to do! Should I confront my fears and talk to her?! I can't though, I'm really scared she'll find me over dramatic! I don't have the guts to. I feel like a real coward right now. I fear she'll stop talking to me even just to say hi. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?

2 Name: E45 : 2020-09-12 00:01 ID:8Fk7ygNO [Del]

DISCLAIMER: The following statements are complete opinions based on E45's experience. Everyone is entitled to have their opinion but should not push their values on others. E45 is merely stating his/her experience similar to the said situation.

IMO, you should try to approach her, cause you won't get results without doing anything. However, "wise man once told me, do not ask questions you don't want to know the answer to" -Will Smith. With those in mind, you must ask yourself how much risk are you willing to risk and how prepared are you in the possible results.

I have experienced similar event and TBH, it didn't ended well. There are let's say a lot of possible routes that the confrontation/approach may develop into. Such as she may take it as; thank god you haven't forgotten about me (relief), or what an overly attached best friend (annoyed?), or why are you not talking to me in the hallway (annoyed) etc. My experience was the second, she deemed me to be overly attached when I just cared so much for her.

I am not really in position to tell you what to do as I am an outsider. I do not know the whole story, earlier quotes and logic may sound so high and mighty but it is easier said than done. The few cited possible outcomes does not necessarily stand as the only route instead they are dependent on how you face and handle each development.

It may sound like a game of choice but quite frankly, these are just some thoughts of an over thinker. In the end it is how much are you willing to risk? Sorry, that my reply isn't exactly candies and rainbows but I hope you take my honesty in positive light. I wish you all the best (luck, courage, love, understanding etc.) in your undertaking.

3 Name: Taki : 2020-09-12 23:50 ID:fHL0zhfd [Del]

Here's my suggestion on the matter: be open with her! I've lost friends because I was too much of a coward to tell them stuff, and ended up pushing myself away. And if they react by saying you're annoying or clingy, you gotta ask yourself, are they really a friend?
Best case scenario you get your friend back and have created a more open relationship with them, worst case you learn from the experience and are free to search for someone new, maybe someone who shares more of your interests or who cares about you just as much as you care for them.
Take all this with a grain of salt, different circumstances require different actions. Hopefully it's a bit helpful though.
Best of luck to you!!