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Is it normal in college to be alone or not? (6)

1 Name: Fenira : 2020-08-22 05:13 ID:0ag8gbm0 [Del]

My classmates doesn't care the hell outta me

So yeah, I'm just a literaly nobody. Nobody would even dare to socialize with me in the room with no teacher. When there's group activities that only consist of friends I'm just out of place all the time. I was often misunderstood thay I didn't contribute to anything. This time, dealing with onlime classes you would reply to some inquiries or questions gave by our professors((though our prof requires to reply atleast in one post), no one didn't even dare to reply to my answers, instead they chose to reply on their fellow classmates'post. They will just be simply be there when they know I have suicidal thoughts, negative thoughts and when it's only just my birthday.

Lastly, when their classmate was absent, they like, honor it to their professors then adding it to their group members. On my case, there's no single soul who didn't even care for me. I think it requires for me to express my suicidal thoughts just for me to get attention? Like, that's how they want it to happen? There's one classmate who gave me some smug look if she saw me sitting near her friends cuz she's late? Sis, is it my fault that you don't have any seat to sit down during the class?

To be honest, I didn't do anything rubbish to these people. I am a quiet person in the class yet some classmates who are more quiet than me has a lot of friends.

2 Name: Fenira : 2020-08-23 04:14 ID:8Qs0XmpO [Del]

ok I'm just a "nobody" here to I guess. Thank you so much.

3 Name: S.O.R.A.!QfHl8.b5e. : 2020-08-23 16:42 ID:zwCTLEJx [Del]

wew how i can start

maybe they see you as someone annyoning, thats rude of me but that could be true, people seems to hate someone without a motive, really it happens to me ALL THE TIME, but i dont know if you are extroverted or introverted

try to ask to yourself:
1) are you really good ? like you dont do things that makes people upset?
2) these people are good for you? like is fine want friends, but making friends with everyone is impossible, also there are people whos talks you only wanting a benefit
3)ask to yourself (heh) what things you consider inappropiate for you or for someone, you know people goes upset for small details that they dislike


maybe you can try the friendly thing, but that thing if you overdoit can backfire you , ending that making you a weird one or a bulleable target, just chill out, cool your nerves and think to start again, it is possible making friends but not everyone is your friend

sorry for being akward i have broken english and im kinda messed up so i hope this helps

4 Name: Qubert : 2020-08-24 07:55 ID:TFq9PaAh [Del]

my friend fenira, dont go

"ok I'm just a "nobody" here to I guess. Thank you so much"


S.O.R.A. has explained to you one of the problem

people kinda prefer to stay with the ones who gives out positive vibes
so calm your mind and look into yourself to see if you are doing anything that repels others

1)don't be gloomy
2)see them as your equals
3)no matter how mean they were show kindness
4)prove them you are powerful(by scoring good marks, being active in class,taking up responsibilities and doing it well)
5)make sure to keep the moderation or else the plan will backfire

also when you try to change the people around may get more mean , it is to make sure nothing changes, its a universal truth
also known as Le Chatelier's Principle

make sure it doesn't stop you

5 Name: Qubert : 2020-08-24 08:11 ID:TFq9PaAh [Del]

it is less likely that you will need this, wait for a few months and if you cant make any progress
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6 Name: TheApostle : 2020-08-26 09:36 ID:dJTQZSIS [Del]

Something nobody has mentioned yet. As someone who was formerly VERY extroverted and had a lot of friends. I think that the keyword here is friend"s" why the "s"? Try to find 1 really good friend. Even if you have to be friends with a neglected loser. Just find 1 person to make you happy. Once you find that one nice person then everyone else will slowly feel more comfortable talking to you cuz they've seen how you talk to your one good friend. These things don't happen overnight but I'd take one good friend over a throng of neutrality any day. As for your suicidal thoughts... This is going to sound really rude but here me out. Nobody cares about your problems. (obviously I do) but nobody in your class wants to here about it. It's natural to want to avoid negativity and if you think that it brings attention your way, it does. But only negative attention. Honestly if you started telling your classmates how happy you are they would probably be like "Wow, why's that?" (positive attention). If nothing I told you really makes sense to you then my last piece of advice is to read Romans 8:28 "God works all things for the good of those who love him", if life seems hard now then just view it as character development for an amazing life ahead.