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How to Overcome Negative Descriptions from your classmates? (3)

1 Name: Ensi : 2020-08-11 09:34 ID:0ag8gbm0 [Del]

How to Overcome dealing with bad judgements from your classmates?

So yeah, classes is going to resume online and I dunno how to overcome my problem rn.

Last semester, there had been a widespread rumor that I'm not a good or helpful group member. On that time, My wisdom tooth is aching like 10/10 the pain reached to my jaw and I am really depressed from my acads (I had academic failure before) that I loss myself, therefore I have no passion in everything that I do most especially to my chosen college program. I tried my best to give some contributions but sadly all of which are already completed by my members.

Those past group members of mine found it alarming they chose to report the concern to one of our professors.
I am really disappointed to this member whom I shared my problems to nevwr even told to me professor for what really happened to me.
Because of the issue, the rumor has been widespread saying that I'm a useless group member. And maybe this professiors had already a bad image about me.

Even before that last semester, I contributed well to my group and it is saddened me such "misjudge" still remained.
Even when there are other group activities, some group members of mine used to laugh on other classmates whom I become my fellow member on some classes or courses.

Again, online class is going to happen in a few days, starting another year of college, having a negative assumptions about me that I'm a bad group member sucks.

Our class president announced the new set of groups, one former group member of mine said "ugh, my day ruined because of this", cuz knowingly I am his group member once again.

Due to sudden problems from late enrollees, the group changed and some douchebag whom I once my group member and said his day was ruined, didn't officially became my group member.

The new group members of mine right now, added me last because of the widespread rumor... as a sensitive human being, it is always alarming and saddening.

I was the one who even apologizes the widespread rumor and I promise that I'll never do it again to that one member whom I've become close to last semester. What scares me are the remaining members who may have know the rumor.
My name didn't even seen on the latter part of the group members but the ones on the latter had been added first.

It is indeed depressing. In our house I am a student, housekeeper and a sister to my brother who has disability. I cannot guarantee myself that I may pass some contributions on time because of those roles.

If you may ask why not hire a household maid or where me parents are?

Our former household maid used to inflict physical and verbal abuse to my brother. As his sister, I never failed to stood for him and expose her wrongdoings to my parents. Also, we still have community Quarantine lockdown so, we need to save money for survival (so we decided not to let our new maid in) and where our newly hired maid lived also have a community quarantine.

My mom is a health practitioner wheras my father works overseas wherein the country he's working is also having a lockdown.

I also had a valuable lesson because of this.

I then chose not to address my problem outside our group activities so they would not be pity of me or whatever assumptions I may have.

*Sorry for the messy grammar and wrong spellings.

2 Name: DefterMoon : 2020-08-11 10:27 ID:7Umv8zbk [Del]

>>1 Sadly I think all you can do is just toughen up and go through it. There's nothing you can do to change people's minds in this case other than working hard. People could just see the reasons for you working less as excuses. So don't even tell them why just work hard and try to change the perspective that way. And if they think you're lazy don't let it bother you so long as you're proud of the work you've done nothing else matters.

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