Due to a depression I'm in psychosomatic rehabilitation atm. The group I have therapy with is nice and the therapist seemed to be qualified and friendly. He always greets me with a huge smile and I thought that he thinks of me as a likeable person, but nothing more than that. But last week happened something strange. In therapy I talked about the relationship between me and a boy (George) I met three years ago when we were both in a relationship with somebody else.
The thing is I liked George very much back then but because of my boyfriend (who is my ex now) there was no option of getting into a relationship with him. We changed numbers but lost contact, since he didn't write back anymore. He told me he loves his girlfriend and doesn't want to break up with her and I accepted it. But a few weeks later she broke up with him. After that George wrote me lots of messages that he loves me and that he realized it too late so on, but I knew that it wasn't real love. It was his fear of being lonely without a partner. After two weeks he had a new girlfriend and stopped writing messages. Yes, I'm permanently stalking his fb acc to look up his relationship status and I found out something: The thing is, he writes me from time to time, everytime when he breaks up with his girlfriends. And he beraks up with all of his girlfriends after 2 or 3 months. But as soon as he finds a new girlfriend, he breaks the contact once again. So I started to ignore George, but as I started my therapy he contacted me again, because he was single again.
So I told my therapist that I don't want to be in contact with George, since I know that he doesn't love me for real and it breaks my heart to be in contact with somebody who uses me only for his own interests without caring for my feelings.
Just so you know: My main issue why I'm in therapy is that my self-confidence is very low and the relationship with my ex was an on-off-relationship since he was in love with me and with another girl the same time and he couldn't decide who he loves more. In the end my ex broke up with me because the other girl was pregnant :/ That's the reason why I'm in depression and why I have to work on my own character to get stronger and to kick the ass of guys who do not value me like they should do. I thought that it would be a good first step to break up the contact with George since he is the same type like my ex-boyfriend. He just wants to have fun with girls and doesn't value my worth as a woman.
I wanted the therapist to confirm that it is important for me to cut with every toxic person in my life who gives me the feeling of not being worth enough to be accepted. But the therapist didn't listen to my self-esteem-talking and about my feelings about how it feels to be number-two choice or a placeholder until George finds a new girlfriend. The therapist started to ask me several questions about how strong my pendency to the George was. I told the therapist that I am not emotional depending on George because I know that he doesn't love me and that my feelings for him died about three years ago, when I realized that he abuses me as a placeholder. But the therapist didn't stop asking these questions about my feelings for George and then he asked if I had a sexual relationship with him. I don't know if it is ok to ask that in a therapy, since it was not the subject I wanted to talk about and it doesn't influences the point that I want to break the contact with George. I wanted to talk about the topic that I always feel like everyone would only try to get in contact with me when they are bored or they need something and I am the stupid girl that helps everybody. So I feel worthless and idiotic and I want to stop being the one everybody uses for their own interests and that is what I told the therapist. But the therapist really seemed to be interested in my sexual relationship to George and even after I did not answer his question he still tried to get an answer by rephrasing the question and in the end he said 'So you had an intense relationship with that young man that even got sexual' although I had never said that it WAS sexual. I was too confused to tell him that he was wrong with his conclusion, so I said nothing. But I believe that he used this imputation to get the truth out of me. What was very strange, because I really think that it does not matter whether I had a sexual relationship with George or not!
Also the therapist acted very strange throughout the whole session. His face was red all the time and he seemed to be nervous, he was sweating a lot and moving back and forward on his chair. His voice was shaking when he talked about the sex-topic and he used his hands much more than normally.
Do you think that he is a pervert and has sexual interest in me? Or was that a normal question although it had nothing to do with the subject I actually wanted to talk about?

i dont know much about therapy but i dont think that it is weird to ask you about the sexual relationship. your therapist needs to know every detail so he can understand your current situation better. the real weird thing is how he acted during the session. you said that he was nervous and his face turned red. these details are more suspicious that the question about the sexual relationship itself. he mustnt be totally hentai, though he could be a little bit interested in you. when you feel bad about his behavior and about his question why dont you tell him? he is a therapist, he shouldnt make you feel uncomfortable during the sessions. go and ask him why he wanted to know all these details about your relationship to gregor and you will see how he reacts. good luck ^.^