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How do I be upfront with this person? (3)

1 Name: Xara !cLAc5rAVRA : 2020-07-11 16:58 ID:s6C5xbwi [Del]

Ok so like I have this friend who is two grades above me and Im like 75% sure he's interested in me as a romantic partner kind of thing. Hes been sorta open to me about me like sometimes he tries to flirt and say damn your pretty lmao. Yk just subtle compliments which I don't mind. He personally isn't my type which he knows he isn't but still tries anyway. But maybe now Im kinda sorta attracted to him because he showers me in attention when we used to text a lot like every morning he will be like hey or every night he will text me all the time. It was nice Id say it felt comforting. But now Im just like trying to distance myself from him because I know I don't want to like him and I know if I keep pretending to like talking to him it will only make things worse so Im kinda ghosting him right now and I feel really bad. Its not his fault or anything Im just really confused on what to do because Im too scared to admit what I really feel about him. I was thinking on telling him how i feel about him but I'm not even sure if he does like me. I don't want to make people feel bad so Im not sure what I should do. Im just scared if I do become honest with him we will become awkward towards each other. Any ideas? Please let me know

2 Name: Silence : 2020-07-12 02:25 ID:hQmaL/qa [Del]

I think I may have a suggestion. I had this same problem a few years back. I had this friend who I really cared about and he was always there for me, however it turned out his feelings were romantic and I did not feel the same. I told him this "I feel truly honored that you feel that way about me, however I don't feel the same way about you. I'm sorry but, it's not going to work out between us and I understand if you feel like you need to keep your distance for a while after hearing this or if you feel it would be best for your heart to cut ties." We are still friends to this day ^^ though I cannot guarantee it will turn out the same way for you. Good luck <3

3 Name: Akina : 2020-07-14 20:45 ID:LWTP8K+O [Del]

Yes honesty can hurt since idk your age but I'm going to give you adult advice. You don't want a romantic relationship doesn't mean you can't date him if you don't want anything real but you have to be honest or you'll break the guy heart. If you end up liking him more sure it can become romantic but that's your decision. If the "your type thing" is really serious to you don't do it and be friends. If friendship or dating non romantic doesn't work with him there's not much you can do but set him free. He'll be fine and don't ghost him too long. He'll really blame himself or low self esteem.