I sometimes wonder if I'm too mean.
In a game (online), one member of our group suddenly betrayed us in-game. He did it during an important event, so it ticked everyone. When we reprimanded him for it, all he could say was "I don't care, damage is done, too bad for you." and stuff like that. He even dared say that it was our fault - when in fact, he only misunderstood what another member said (it was pretty clear, i don't know how he misunderstood it... or if he's just saying it's that member's fault as an attempt to shift blame)
When we started ignoring him, only then did he feel "guilty" and insincerely apologized. One of our members feel guilty for ignoring him because he might've been a kid and told him that his apology was insincere and for him to try again. He apologized again, this time more sincerely.
Okay, one important thing before continuing: I suspect this member to be a spy from an enemy group because of the timing of him joining us and our enemies locating us (you can't locate enemies unless you roam around the map). He also mentioned something like "Fine, your group sucks, I'll just return to my old group ___" and that old group he mentioned is allied with our enemy group. There's also the fact that his name is " +
" before he joined.
Some members started feeling pity for him, thinking that maybe he's a kid, and that he may actually be sincerely apologizing. We still mostly ignored his message but now they're considering forgiving him and letting him stay saying that they'll just keep an eye on him, and that he's active and helps out anyway.
Personally, I don't want him to stay for the main reason that he's still a suspect about being a spy. The other members say they doubt him being a spy because he does help out and is one of the top donators in the group.
But... idk if i'm really just overthinking, but if I were a spy I'd do anything to make it look like I'm a good asset... and hit when the iron's hot (just like what he did). He's probably only apologizing because he accidentally mentioned his old/original group while dissing us. Plus he could see our activities and updated location if he stays in our group, which he could tattle to anyone so they could attack us especially when we're offline/defenseless.
Oh, and I could easily write up an apology to make it look like I'm sorry. So I don't buy his apology. Then again, I don't know what apology I'll ever accept anyway.
Now my group is making me feel like I'm the mean one for not forgiving him (not directly, but yeah).
