I have been "manipulated" by my friend and I don't know how to call it.
I am a college student right now, taking a health related program that deals with people with physical and psychosocial limitations. Therefore, we have been taught by our professors to not only provide them treatment or design intervention for them but also to advocate for them to receive opportunities that being received alike on a typically functioning person.
I have a friend, let's name it "Gia" who attempted suicide inside our campus. She was told by our psychiatrist within our institution to get closer to her family by guarding her so that she may became distant with such behavior as soon as possible.
She was then told not to enroll the next academic year and rather study in their province then leaving the city instead where our institution can be found. It has be done for the sake of her mental health.
I have a landlady who cooks meals for me three times a day which is inclusive for my payment in this mini apartment.
Gia guilt trips me all the time by saying "I can only eat meals when I am with you"
then I'm like. Is it my fault if she didn't get to eat three times a day? I often eat my meals near my mini apartment because I tried to make my parents payment of my stay worth it by eating those meals.

Gia can't be there since my landlady is strict when it comes to visitors.
She only has a few courses before officially transferring to their university in their province. Unfortunately, her college program she's taking the same with me is not available in their public university. Sadly, she needs to choose another program.

I know that there are no medical college programs that are easy. All of which are truly difficult. Regardless of how genuine my passion is for taking it, I never failed to question myself for choosing this program.
Gia keeps on telling me:
"Girl, you need to change program like me"
"Just tell me if you want to change college program so I'll change mine too"
"you should've taken this college program, not this"
"This college program doesn't help in our society in this time of pandemic"
"Your scores are low, so you're gonna shift"
Then I rant on her in our conversation online.
" If you ever needs to change environment, school or college program don't you ever blend me or involve me because my challenges or my problems in life is different from you"
"Before you say something bad like that, please keep on reflecting youreself if it would be relevant to me or not. Our institution chose to have online assessments 'til now and don't give me a sh*tty stress out of it"
" I know you loved the college program once and why would you dare to say our chosen profession is not relevant to this pandemic"
and mostly
"As a friend, you should be there for me supporting me on my chosen college program and not giving up on it"
She says something like this. Gia was trying to motivate me by being insensitive to me and to push me by studying hard. Being blunt or giving too much negatovities on me for her, it motivates me to study but it is not.

What do you think guys? Going back to the definition of my chosen program, should I compensate for my friend's Bipolar disorder? I'm scared of doing this maybe because I would be judged by other people for being hypocrite for acting out like this. OR
Should I cut the friendship from too much toxicity?

Its often a misunderstood factor of bipolar, what seems like manipulation is almost a symptom. It's like an impulse reaction born from the constant pressure and pain of the illness.
Being sick, being told that they can't make the same decisions as other students, and being told to get close to a family who may have been neglectful to her in the past --- all these factors together is a recipe for panic, anxiety, and fear of abandonment.

The fact that you are moving ahead scares Gia.

It's very common for someone with mental illness to show deep care and affection for you in the wrong ways. We don't have reliable sources of reference, and we're often guessing at why we're upset or afraid about something in the first place.

This manipulation is sort of like Gia's way of saying "I really love you and seeing you become someone amazing makes me afraid that you will leave me behind"

Its Gia's way of saying "I feel so small around you and I'm afraid you won't like me anymore if you keep getting bigger"

It's Gia's way of saying "If you really leave im gonna be lost without you, Im going to miss you so much, so you better call me, and make plans with me when you're in town"

It's Gia's way of saying "I just need you to tell me that no matter how successful you become, you won't leave me behind"

Its almost impossible for someone with mental illness to not spill a bit of toxicity out no matter what we do, and sometimes we just never got to learn how to develop interpersonal relationships because most people give up on us.

I won't say cut her from your life, but I will that you need to trade sentiments.

She needs to know you won't abandon her

You need her to stop treating you like you're less than you are.

And you don't need to be her best friend---
Forgiveness first, compromise together, and read between the lines of what she says if it seems like she's saying something to hurt you.

Latly, and most importantly, you need to ask your heart whats best for your heart. If you're not enjoying the time you spend with her, even from the best perspective, then I have to imagine she is just here now to teach you a lesson. A lesson that seems directly related to your aspirations.

Remember;
"you're not gonna make it, stay here" means "I'll miss you"

Hope this helps.