hi i'm Knife and i got shit to work through so enjoy my probably annoying ranting ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

so my dad's an angry guy- like the sort who sees different opinions as disrespect- he tries to say shit like "oh i just get passionate" or "this is me trying to help u" but he's entirely too possessive and overbearing and im not here for that gaslighting bullshit. anyway, heres a quick summary o shit. when my oldest three siblings were young he wouldn't let them wear any shorts or skirts that went above the knee, he has the type to know everything about each of their friends and their parents, and he was loud and mean and used a belt to "discipline" them. when my brother was a senior, he was forced to remove his bedroom door and never close the door to any room if he was alone in there because my dad "didnt trust him" and my sisters got in many a bad relationship because they thought men being lound and angry and overbearing was normal. he got a bit better with me and my siblings closest to me in age (there are six of us alltogether), but i mean better still isnt great :/ he used to yell at me for needing to go to the bathroom after bedtime, or just being "loud" while he was in a bad mood in general (being loud could include anything from arguing to walking too loudly. this is why i dont like wearing flip-flops, even now). i also dont like belts, for obvious reasons. he liked to rant at me and my siblings for making very innocuous mistakes like saying a word we didn't know were bad or talking to people he didn't like, even though we were never told not to hang out with them. this is why im good at disassociating now uwu. theres probably other stuff but im tired so im leaving it here for now. this is all to say fuck my dad and also fuck people who yell instead of just talking things out like rational adults.

I just read your post, maybe I'm too late and you'll never see this but I understand where your rant is coming from. you know, some parents just really don't know what they're doing. for me, it's not like my father is yelling constantly or anything but it's just like he's not really present. so I guess both sides are pretty bad.
idk how old you are now and I can't really say anything because it's not like people can just distance themselves from their parents so easily at a young age. but you know I actually just stopped caring, of course it's annoying and it'll probably always stay like that but not letting it bother you is the key.
you'll see how fast time actually goes and before you know it you'll have moved out and can build up your own life.
also, omg how much I hate people who yell. I can understand your last point so good. people need to chill.
also, I'm sorry for asking but does he still use belts and stuff? because then it wouldn't be too good to ignore that maybe? but since you said it got better, could it be that he stopped with that?
I really don't know if this helps but I just hope you'll read it and know that others are out there too! you got this