2 Name: EpicKeith !K31THxH0Es : 2019-07-14 11:21 ID:xVqhgnVu [Del]
Talking isn't a bad thing. It will help further understanding. My parents were accepting of me when I first came out, but my mom wasn't aware of what all it meant, which caused some conflict. Luckily my cousin did the talking for me at first, but I needed to talk myself. It's allowed us to become very close, which I'm grateful for. So, just talk to them, even if you think it's not necessary.
Also, what exactly do you mean by "need something official to happen"? If you mean like... HRT, I very much recommend you wait until you're at least 18. Give yourself the time to think and be sure that's actually something you want and need. There's some effects that are irreversible, so it's important that you're absolutely sure of yourself. I'm 20 and only now beginning the process of starting T. I've wanted it for years now, but that's how I'm sure this isn't just an impulsive decision. Basically, don't rush into these things. It's a life changing decision. I know that's not something you'd want to hear, but from a fellow trans man, please trust me on this.
If by official though, you mean.. using your preferred name and pronouns, you have to be patient. They've known you all your life as one name, so it's difficult to switch. I understand the frustration of being misgendered and the dysphoria that comes with it. But these things don't come immediately. It took a whole year after I came out for my parents to regularly call me Keith and use he/him pronouns. And even now, nearing 2 years, they still slip up. I just appreciate that they are trying their best.
It's a hard, long process of ups and downs, but it will be worth it in the end. Stay positive and keep being your true self.