This doesn't seem like a situation where most Dollars would be prepared to give the best advice. It's more of something you should seek professional help with. All I can say is that I think it's really strong & kind of you to try resisting your violent urges. Especially since it was instilled in you as a child like that – as
>>2 said, it must be really hard on you. I hope the load will lessen on you as time goes on, because you seriously never deserved for any of that to happen to you. Stay strong, wishing you peace.