So my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost five months. Everything has been great, so far. She's met my parents and some of my friends, and I've met her parents and her friends. We've gone on several dates, she's spent several days and nights at my place. Long story short, everything is awesome.

Except, we had our first real argument on Monday.

So, my girlfriend has a higher libido than I do. She's pretty much ready and willing to go whenever. I, on the other hand, am more...reserved, I guess?

Ever since she and I started dating, I've had more sex than I've ever had before, and I guess I'm somehow satisfied now. I don't think about it all the time, I don't feel the need to go on dating sites like MeetMe or Tinder or whatever to try and find a local girl whose DTF or whatever. She's the best I've ever had and takes care of all my sexual needs. But she can go every hour of every day. (I'm a lucky man.)

So she spent the day at my place while I was at work, and when I got off, I found out that she'd gone to an adult store and bought a new outfit and a leash and collar that she wanted to try and incorporate into our...lovemaking...and apparently I didn't react the way she wanted me to act.

You see, I wanted to get off of work, get out of my uniform, put on some comfortable clothes and sit down with her while we binge watch "Charmed" on Netflix, while she tries to convince me to indulge in some unhealthy eating habits that will make me feel all the more need to go to the gym in the morning.

And when we started getting into it...the collar was throwing me off, which made me feel like I was messing things up, which made me lose focus, and of course, threw off my groove, and we didn't finish. And she said that it was kind of a blow to her sexual confidence, and she felt silly for buying the stuff.

She cried for a while. Afterwards, she just wanted to go to sleep. Then she was somewhat moody the next day. Then she got emotional and we argued about it for a bit, and then when I was about to leave to go to the gym, she called me over and hugged me, apologized, and then sort of calmed down and said she felt silly for getting emotional over it.

We've been kind of okay since then. She did text me last night and ask if we were alright, because she's still worried about her emotional outburst. I told her yes, but I still feel like she's not convinced and is carrying some doubt and mixed feelings inside that she doesn't want to tell me. Which makes me feel sort of uneasy and wonder if we're truly okay.

Do you guys have any suggestions? What's something I can do to try and make things better, if anything?

Everyone has "kinks", why not "explore" a bit with your girlfriend? Like the collar situation, it might not work out but you might find other "kinks" that both of you like. Maybe having a discussion about your "kinks" might help? (I really don't know if it's a good idea, I've never had a girlfriend, so yeah...)

If you can't "keep up" with her sex drive, why not go to that adult store where she went and buy a few toys that won't need you to be "up at attention", so you and your girlfriend will have less difficulty finishing if you ever lose your groove.

Right now, she probably feels like she's the "dirty one" of you two and probably feels ashamed of that. So why not show her that both of you can be "dirty" and that she has nothing to be ashamed of? She'll probably be happy of the attention and of the fact that you're trying something that you're not experienced with for her. (Again, I've never had a girlfriend so do keep in mind that I have no experience in this domain and might be totally be wrong about the whole thing).

Hope this helps

No, you're right. I actually like that idea. I'll most likely give that a try come pay day next week. Thank you. :)

Daemon's advice is pretty solid, actually,
even if he doesn't have the experience to back it up. Discuss it with her, work out compromises, try out new things. That's pretty much what you gotta do.

However, this doesn't guarantee things will be fixed. Sometimes, people just won't be sexually compatible, no matter how hard you try. If sex is a big deal to either one of you in the relationship, an incompatibility could be a deal breaker.

There's also the possibility that things are moving too fast in your relationship? She wants to go further in trying things out, but you're comfortable with how things are now. Just discuss that with her. She should be able to understand.

Seeing how this was your first real argument, it seems like you guys work well together in other aspects, so I really hope you two are able to work things out! Good luck.