Hey guys. Here I am again asking for some R/s advice from the more experienced people here, or just anyone who'd like to share their thoughts. Here goes.

I have a crush on this girl, let's call her 'X'. We've been chatting for quite some time now (few months actually) and I've asked her out twice. But we're not a couple at this point in time since she's made it clear that she can only start dating after graduation. We're graduating in about half a year's time. Right now she's busy with her internship at a hospital (she's a nurse) and it's her birthday this coming Saturday.

I want to give her a gift (a book) on Friday, personally, because I don't think she's free on her bday. (family, friends). I'm planning to visit her during her lunch break/break to give my gift. Do you guys think it's a good idea? Is it rude of me to do that? Will I embarrass her in front of her colleagues? She did say she likes surprises but I don't want to take it too far out.

I'd appreciate your responses and advice!

send it to her . she wants to concentrate on her job. so i think you better keep distance

Sending it to her seems to be a safe bet, I don't think you can go wrong with that.

Honestly i'd say to give it to her in person if you are good friends,if you just know her and she just knows you, i don't really think you should give her something... i mean it's cute but it can be interpreted in other ways. Also if she didn't invited you to celebrate her day you don't have to give her anything, you can actually ask her out to celebrate her day with a lemonade or at a cafe, i think that would be really nice, and if she doesn't want to go alone she can come with her friends as well, have another party for her, you get to go out with her and also it can't be calle a date so it's kinda a win win!

Than again you can just give her that book, but it's kinda expected, and it won't really be something that memorable... so why not do something a bit more unconventional...

All this are just ideas! Soooo don't do as i say if you can't see yourself doing it

Thanks everyone for your replies, really appreciate them! I’ve been thinking about this these few days, I’ve decided... to not give anything at all. Hahaha I’m so pathetic right. I can think of all these ideas but none of them can come to fruition because...I guess I’m scared of what could happen? What if she thinks it’s lame or something, after all she’s not the lovey dovey type haha. I think I’ll just message her on her birthday. Take it slow. Truly hopeless, I am.

why invest?, girls like guys who treats them badly, shhe just knows if you buy often gifts for her that she can use you, dont buy heranything and dont get to attached, remember that you are the prize, but most man propably forgot already and do everything for a cunt, biggest mistake you can do, she dosnt even love you for you but for what you have (hyoergamy )or what you can offer ( looks money or status ) so why invest in someone who dosnt love you, see her as a toy to toy with sometimes, like a quick dopamine fix , trust me the worser you treat her and the lesser you invest, the better the outcome

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This is a very douche-y attitude and will only gain you the attention of equally douche-y girls. Don't listen to this dude.

Anyways, I think you're on the right path, OP. Taking it slow is the better option cause making too big of a gesture too soon can creep her out. Spend some time with her and try to gauge if she returns your feelings. Her saying that she wants to wait until graduation may have been a sign that she wanted to let you down easy, so don't get your hopes too high up. But the possibility of her feeling the same way still stands, you'll just have to pay attention. If she ends up not wanting to date, don't be too upset! You seem like a great, warmhearted guy and you'll definitely find a wonderful girl someday.

i just tell it how it is, if shes not interested or starts cheathing OP propably knows whats up then

Izaya Gaten , you really piss me off...Do you really think half of humanity(I'm speaking of women)is just a bunch of cunt only interrested in gifts, money or status ? Maybe a part of women is like that but a part of men is also like that...
Cordially,Step on a lego, Izaya Gaten.