I've been a member of the dollars for years, but haven't been on in a year due to severe depression making it too hard to do anything. I've been depressed for three years, and this past 8 months have been the worst by far. I barely mustered the energy to pass my classes in May so I could graduate high school, and somehow I made it to college, but since I got here I have been just as depressed as I was before, and even making it to classes has been hard. That is, until about two weeks ago. Two weeks ago I met a girl who stole my heart. We share an assignment as group leaders in school, so I see and talk to her fairly frequently, though my social anxiety makes it hard to talk about anything not related to our group. The past two weeks have been the happiest in months for me, but I'm starting to sink back into my depression.

I want to be happy for longer than two weeks a year, I want to get closer to this girl, and I feel the two are connected. The problem is, every time I even think about making a move, I start getting anxious. I've spent much of the past two weeks researching social interaction, dating, and overcoming social anxiety, and at times I feel confident, until of course I start thinking of applying it to real life. I have really bad acne, I'm overweight, and I have moobs. I'm not confident in myself hardly at all, but I still try to dress my best when going around, as hope to hide my imperfections.

Basically, I'm looking for help. I want help knowing what to do. I want to feel better about myself, stop feeling depressed all the time, and go out with this girl. I've turned to every other resource I have l, and haven't really received any answers I could use, mostly because I keep over thinking this, and getting anxious about each and every step. So, I know this is a strange request, and a difficult one, but please help me figure out what to do. Until now my strategy has been to hope that time improves me in her sight (I don't know what she thinks of me, but I can't stop myself from thinking it's bad), but now that the end of semester is looming ever closer, I fear I will run out of time

Three things.

First, eat fiber. Lots of fiber. That'll help with weight, since you'll feel full for longer. It'll remove fat, your moobs, and your acne will eventually fade as you feel better about weight. WARNING: HIGH FIBER INTAKE WILL PRODUCE VIOLENTLY HARD EXCREMENT, DO NOT USE THE BATHROOM AT HER HOUSE/ROOM/DORM.

Second, just talk to her more. Try to go out of your way to interact with her. Be kind, sweet, and try to make her laugh. Avoid any romantic topics until you've been friends for another week or two, then start laying down playful/flirty compliments. Before you do this, run them by a Dollar. Don't be creepy, and you'll be fine tho. Also, make sure you're comfortable in your friendship before anything.

Third, after all this, ask her out. Asking her out is a big risk, but maybe it'll work out. Maybe it won't. If you passed step two, then this is still salvageable. Just say you understand, but want to remain friends. If you did a good job with step two, then just stay in the friendzone for a while. If given the opportunity to escape it, do it, but don't press the issue.

tl;dr
Eat fiber, interact with her more, ask her out after some time, if it fails then stay friends.

If you then need romantic advice, ask for more intel here.

Thanks, I appreciate the advice.

Just a random person stopping by to hope everything goes well.

Hmm. I'm sure you'll be fine. Just be yourself and find out what she likes. Start slow you know? Don't rush. A good thing to do is find something you're both into and talk to her about it alot

I definitely understand your predicament, and anything I say would already have been said above, but seriously don't give up hope man. I'm absolutely positive you're an amazing person whoever you, and you deserve better than what you have been feeling. Stay real!

get a grasp of reality, womans will most likely break up with you the way you presented yourself , nah not even that, be yourself is the biggest bullshit you can say by giving " dating advice ", a woman will never love you the way you do love her, bc shes hypergam ( loves you for what you HAVE ) and you polygam ( loves her for what she IS ), but looks is the main factor to "love" if not then she propably just sees a good provider in you but your second fiddle at best, ive seen it to much now they leave you in an hearbeat if something better comes along, someone that threats her worse then you did ( they like danger after all ) someone who has more money then you, or someone who just looks way better,or is semi famous has status overall

thats what woman look in for a man, none of that im a caring dude bs, they loose respect for you if you put her first if you do like she wants, etc ,

Long story short nice guys finish never ( you propably know the term i just fixed it how it rly is )

so yea ignore her, your ugly so your not her main option anyways, focus on your fucking self first and dont give a shit if she wants something with you she gives you the stare, other attempts end in fast breakups or nothing anyways

and if you somehow get a relationshit, remember my words

y i sound harsh here but thats the way it is, there are enough videos out there that explain this just a look into LMS on youtube should open your eyes

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I was overweight once. But I decided to change my life. I started exercising, discipline myself to follow routine. after a year everything change for me.

I had a friend similar to you but to be honest even when he lost weight he felt awful that that's the only reason people would notice him based on features. Honestly I agree it is a shame people do this to each other and I honestly told him if I were yoy I think you should make sure they accept you as a person. I told him honestly he wasn't an ugly fat kid. Out of shape doesn't define you and he wasn't lazy and suffer a lot of depression too. His step mother used to make him stay in the basement and his father stood with her for money despite what she did to his son. His father always try to make him happy but his step mother always keeps coming in between them. He feels a lot better bc of the friends he gain accepted him for what he is. He had a bad attitude when we 1st met him but he apologize. Eventually we learn about him to become a family of our own. What I'm saying though is don't feel ashame of yourself bc only you can define yourself. About face acne wash your face and hands and use natural products and I hope you're not allergic to anything. There's a lot out there but I use a mud mask to clean my pores avocado oil is good for hair and skin, coconut and shea butter products. Your welcome. *Hearts*