Im in a distant relationship with my boyfriend and we've been dating for almost 4 months. I am very suicidal yet he helps me all the way. All of a sudden today, he texted me saying sweet things and that really made me smile. But when he sent me that message, I was cutting myself before I went to school. I dont think that he knows that im doing this. His exams has started and hes starting to stress out a lot. Im doing my best in order to support him even if he lives in another country. After telling me things that made me smile, I noticed that he seemed a bit off. I asked him what was wrong and he said " I don't feel like you love me like you used to do". Im 14 and he's 17. I stay up for him even though im tired and stressed out. Pretty sure he's dealing with the same thing. I asked him to explain to me why he thinks like that. He hasn't responded.... What should I do?..

The most important thing is to continue to show your support and be honest with him. He'll appreciate it when he has the chance to sit down and think.

Long distance relationships...Hmm. they are tough but I'm sure if you give him your all like you're doing right now... he'll realise you love him. Just give it time.

These situations are hard for sure, but you need to carry on. Things happen for very specific reason Yuna. I currently just started college, and I had a girl that I was dating from the beginning of this year. We had a fantastic rest of the school year, had a lot of fun this summer, even reaching that 6 months achievement, and then school started up again. Only problem is she's still in high school and I'm in college. Over the first month of school I tried my best to stay active with her, texting her everyday and trying to find free time to spend time together, but it just wasn't possible. I tried so hard to stay together, but she didn't want to put in the same effort, and she broke up with me. It absolutely broke me. I became really depressed and contemplated a lot of things I'm not proud of, but in the end I realized it was for the best. I'm not saying that you need to break up with him, but you need to stay positive no matter what. If you need someone to talk to respond to this and I would happy to talk more, just hang in there Yuna!

I used to be in his position. Having a relationship with a girl like you. 14 and cut herself. I had done so much. But, there was just no way I can save her with what I have back then. I had no passport nor the money to went and see her.

the more she hurt herself the more she hurt me.

until. .she decided to suicide. I took my home phone and call her even tho its expensive as hell. She scream of pain. I cried. I can't do nothing. Then I snapped. I end her call, and call her country embassy and told what happened.
Later I got in contact with the ambulance. I told of her location and every details.

If I was wrong I could ended up with sever punishment that was what Ive been told to.

I called her. I was with her. keeping her awake with my voice. 2 hours later I heard a sound people breaking into her home. It was the medic. I listened to the sound of her been taken away.

I ended the call. and I pray of her safety.


its a long story. I had it typed out on another thread.

she was hospitalized for 2 weeks and she still left me in the end 7 months later.

Long distance doesn't help I can be honest with you with that but never let him question your feelings and let him know.. Help him not to be stress beside your feelings think of his. You might be stress and cutting yourself and you know he's doing his all to make you happy you help him to be happy. Young relationships is also tough I'm just letting you know as an adult I realize this the older you get the responsibility is what can make things even tougher. It's not any of you at faults I just want to let the young know for the best of both of you. I told my bf this though as long as we live we can always love each other until the day we die. Even if we had nothing we'll do our best to live on. Life is tough but don't let it tear you up eventually help will come and I seen it as long you're responsible to keep living your life and pushing forward.

Not to sound like a "parent", but at your age, you shouldn't be dating someone that old, much less attempting a long distance relationship. (Seriously, an age gap at that age, when both are still developing, is going to cause issues.)
You're 14! You're still so young! Don't fall into the mistake of many teens and waste your youth with dating problems. Plus, from what you've said, you really really need to be in a place where you feel happy and have a will to live before being in a relationship. Trust me. When I was 14, I was pretty suicidal and in a relationship. It was NOT healthy. I'm extremely grateful he broke up with me before it became too big of a problem. We were constantly using each other under the guise of it being love. And hate to break it to you, but high school relationships rarely last and it being long distance doesn't help.
Please, take care of yourself first. Your health is the most important. Please get help about cutting and suicidal thoughts. Please get yourself to a point where you can be happy most days without needing anyone there for you. It's very hard to do, but I believe you can do it. You just have to prioritize yourself.

A lot of people have given nice advice that you wanna hear, but the best advice is often what you don't wanna hear. In my honest opinion, it would be best for both of you if you broke things off. Stay friends if you both want, but a romantic relationship is not going to help either of you right now. It'll hurt like hell, I know, but it's the first step that you need to take. Giving it "your all" in the relationship won't make it better, it'll just leave you exhausted. I wish you luck and hope that you're able to get better. <3