We've only been dating for 4 months but out of the blue she starts avoiding me a bit. She won't answer my texts and such and last night I confronted her about it. She said that she felt confused and conflicted, saying she loves me but at the same time she also wants to see if she and her ex are would still be in love with eachother when her ex gets back. (her ex moved away and will be away for 2 years) The only reason they broke up in the first place was because she was moving. I honestly feel so cheated??? Like technically they aren't in a relationship any more but she still has feelings for her. I've been thinking about breaking up but in all honesty, I love her way too much. I'm just not completely sure on what to do about this whole situation ughhh i feel so horrible inside about it D:

This is a tough situation you've got yourself in. Personally, I would struggle with this as well. In the end, however, I believe that separating would be for the best. This individual is obviously not as serious about your current relationship as you are, and you deserve someone who is going to commit to you as much as you do to them. I'm not saying that I am right, but this would honestly be honestly how I think I would handle it. I'm very sorry to hear you are going though something like this, and I wish you the best in whatever path you choose.

She's clearly not ready for a real relationship. If they broke up because of a move, and are thinking about getting back together, she's just not ready to settle in any way. She also did not possess the capability to even tell you about this. From her description it doesn't sound like her definition of "love" matches yours.

It sounds like things in this relationship aren't going 100% the way she wants, and instead of making any effort to deal with them, she is just going back to something familiar. This is another sign that she is not ready for a serious relationship.

If you want something serious and long term, it doesn't sound like this person is going to work out. I know what it's like to have one-way feelings for someone, but it will hurt way more if you keep trying to get with her than look elsewhere for someone who is a little more serious.

Good luck. Relationship problems are the worst. Hope it works out for you!

The only advice I can give is to be honest with each other, and having a talk about it could help in your situation. Talk about how you feel cheated and all, and make sure you are both on the same page.

Then, you can decide if you want to break up or stay in a relationship with your girlfriend.

update: she broke up with me and chose her ex and honestly it hurts so fucking much to not have her. I don't know what to do now. I feel so lied to and used, i hate this feeling so much. I honestly just wanna kill myself lmao :^)

>>5 Man dont do it, I just broke up with my misses of 12 months myself, I know its hard but learn from your mistakes and not repeat them a second time,