So i was worried most my life about a lot of things. And overcame them. I am able to talk to girls now and actually bypassed most problems, but still can't get a gf. The issue is everyone i ever asked were taken. Its like a late start and i don,t know enough people. And Bars and such don't have that many girls around here nor do people discuss this outside...

Well its like a bubble that i am stuck outside of. And was wondering if there were ways or things to meet people in canada. Easier. Otherwise might get stuck with dating apps T_T
And yes i tried but really there just aren't many people i meet normally even while being sociable. Its a small place. Even after 3 years no luck. So yea. Hope someone can help me. I'd be rather grateful. Rest i will man up and do my best to handle it.

Don’t look for a girlfriend, put yourself first and further you own aspersions and they will come to you. The most attractive thing to us girls is someone who we believe doesn’t want to be with us, this is because we want what we can’t get.

>>2 I second that. Us women make no sense. Haha.

I would recommend finding a hobby or taking a class or something. You can typically meet people through social activities. There are also some groups for single people in different major cities (if there's a bigger city near you). Often they're just for singles/young adults who just want to do things and meet new people, but obviously you can end up meeting someone you'd be interested in.

The best thing to do is to not go "hunting" for a girlfriend. Don't go to things with the intent of finding a gf. Women pick up on this very quickly and get creeped out. The ones that don't usually just want a hook-up, which, from my understanding is not something you're looking for.

Dating apps get a bad rap, but several of my close friends found people on dating apps who they've now been with for years and in some cases are getting married to. So, don't feel like you're lesser or whatever for using one.

Also, women find men who have goals and are motivated attractive. You don't have to have the ideal stable job, fancy car, house, etc. Just at least have some goal that you're passionate about and actively working toward.

thanks good idea. Skadi

But yea had people confess to me before so not really too bad looking. But if i just sit and wait too passive. Back then i was just to strict and focused... So yea. Just felt like going forward. The idea is not hunting. But letting know your available and just getting to know them is good. Or else many will never even think about it. But your right about the class. Should pick up martial arts again. XD Maybe some mixed group and see were things goes but mostly get in shape.

Guess lonely and would find it good for me. also because it helps for motivation. If i am left all alone i will be strict but will slowly leave myself hollow. But with someone else. I guess i just go beyond? I do remember i did change my life around around for reasons... But yea

Though goals are harder and a bit more fussy about little things because i worry a lot.I act and talk a lot older then i am. Though age is catching up now lol XD But seems all i need is just get to talk and then get to know. Many people mentioned i am pretty good at it. Even strangers mentioned i am just less mean and spitefull then the rest. Somehow i calm people.

But yea guess thats just something to do. So maybe looking for a gf but hard to define "hunting" from the side of a former shut in and even when i am looking a bit too passive for my tastes. But yea. if one does nothing there will never be oportunity. And its insane to do nothing and expect things to change. To strike a conversation first. Saying girls look pretty confessing or just chatting and making friends. All is valuable and will help.

So yea... again thanks skadi its Better advice. Will check the apps and get back in some for of class. Though more chances on the app since many also goes to class for the class XD Will help me meet new people

Find info before you talk

A mixed martial arts class sounds like the right way to go

also just make friends