I didnt see a thread about family issues and how you can sovle some of them. I been having issues with my whole family. My mom, dad and sister treat me like shit and don't appreciate or care about how i feel. They say hurtful things like im a whore, im fat, im ugly, that i need to be kidnapped and raped. They think its ok to say that to me but when i gave my opinion about a birth parent seeing their child after the child been adopted for a school project, i end up being the bad one. In my report i state that a birth parent should be able to visit their child. But then everyone in my house blows up at me and creates a big argument over it. I told them i could care less but they kept on and on about it. They called me trash, a piece of shit, and that they were not my family and that i can be treated like a dog for my opinion on something. its hurtful that they say all those things and when i just give my opinion about something for a project im the bad one. How does that happen? And the only reason why they got all offended was because my older brother is really my half brother. My father adopted him. But that doesnt make me a bad person right? I jist believe a birth parent has the right to see their child if they want to. So i dont know what to do. I cant move out, i have no money or no car so im kinda stuck here in my verbal abusive house. And its only me that they treat bad. So what can i do? They made me cry, and self harm, and i jist need someone to talk to and help me through my situation until i can leave.

Hi LISA,
This is absolutely horrible. I'm really sorry that this is happening to you.. It isn't right. I would ask how old you are and whereabouts you live, but that might not be the best of ideas on a forum like this. Unfortunately, there isn't that much you can do; if you have a friend you trust, perhaps telling their parents about whats going on at your home can help; not all adults are out to get you. Find an adult you trust, like a teacher, perhaps your principal? And confide in them. Its a better shot than suffering in silence.

As a side note, if you'd like to have someone to talk to, I can offer you my LINE or my kik? I'm always readily available to talk, whether you'd like to call or just to text. I even have a discord.

I hope your days get better, LISA.

Sincerely, a friend.

They can'. I do not think you're wrong, your conviction is true to emotions. But, they can't because that would compromised the whole adoption. They lose the rights when they signed the paper to give away their child. There is a whole lot of other method to keep the child without sending them away but in such crisis that was the only method they could thought of, so that their child can live without hardship. That is what they believed in when they signed it.

The family that adopted the child would want to raise the child as their own son/daughter. They may had problems with getting a proper one that is why they choose to adopt one.

Having raised the child as their own. They wouldn't want that paradise to be destroyed.

Birth Parents have rights to see their child. It's not bad to dream. But you also have to consider what's realistic.


about that abusive family, there's nothing you can do about it except tough it out for the next couple of years until you can get out. About needing help, the only person who can help you is yourselves. No person can always be there for you, if you had no good friends even a good trusted family members. You yourselves must walk that path.

The only thing we can do is to keep living another day, everyday hoping each one is better than today.

Lisa!
DONT GIVE UP. This might be just the start of your journey. I can see the intentions of your post, and it made me a little sad that there still people who does this to their family. Such a disappointing sight, I tell you. I, too have experienced what you just said in your post. I tried to neglect them but I still can't, because they are your family. I decided to do what they ask me and it turned out good (because I can say im a bad family member). I'm not saying you should really love them even though they're doing that to you. If you find their actions really abusive I advice you to STEP AWAY. AND GET HELP. This can affect your future if you don't resolve such problems now. DO WHAT YOU CAN NOW, AND IM SURE YOU'LL GET OUT OF YOUR SITUATION. YOU CAN DO IT!

hello lisa!
i feel like everyone already said everything that needed to be said; i just wanted to let you know that there is actually a support community on reddit for people with families like yours: https://reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists
you can vent there anytime and there's a bunch of people with similar situations, so you're definitely not alone in this!

you need to call the cops right now.

stand up to the rigid people hurting you end the suffering and stand up to them by calling the cops, but don't tell them your going to call the cops cause there gonna wanna stop you

LISA!
I know I've posted two times now. I want to know your situation, whats happening now?