As the title stated,
I have problem with girls. I just can't talk to them. I want to get over my fear of being in a relationship with a girl. There has been a lot of girl has approached me but I always ran away. I am 22 and I never had a proper real girlfriend. I used to be in a relationship with a girl on the internet but it is left ambiguous and heartbroken. I was just being used to buy her stuff and stuff and work hard for an impossible things that I make possible.

If you're wondering If I ever met her , the answer is no. She saw me but I didn't. Because she was at the meeting place but she hides.

yeah, I was a stupid kid back then. She's a psycho I guess ?
Anyway, I hope that is enough for my backstory.

Now, I can say that I am tall, good looking, neat, Asian,
There are time people confused me with K-Pop idols in some occasions where I decided to dress up neat and stylish.
I be checking in once a day on this thread.
If there are responses, I will provide details then maybe we can discuss on how we can connect.

Have you tried dating sites... like OkCupid? I tried it. It didn't work for me, but maybe it'll work for you, I dunno.

There were a few people interested in my profile and everything, but after one failed attempt I didn't bother talking to other people on there 'cause I kinda just
stopped being interested. I deleted my account, but honestly there's a lot of people on there, and if you're as attractive as you say you are, you have a higher chance of people being interested in you. so try it maybe.

I have tried a number of dating apps. OkCupid, Skout, MeetMe.
It didn't work. Talks or conversation seems just hard to continue. Chats last long for a day but it didn't continue for the next day to come. I guess most of them are just not active or not interested. I'm open to any conversation but there was no reply. So I gave up and another reason was that most of the people there are Normies they don't find my character mainstream enough I guess.

I met one account in particular was different, was seem honest and truthful. I thought I would text her the next day because I was busy with some works. But, her account is deleted the next day. I believe the genuine ones that are looking for love the one that gave up easily on such dating sites/ dating app. Just like that girl did and myself.

Thank you very much for your response to my thread.
You made my day.
Wherever you are I wish you had a good day.

I just got over a 2 year long crush on my "best friend and kind of flirting buddy" that turned into just a "friend" that turned into a toxic relationship of me still loving him but being hurt because I loved him at the same time, because case in short, he was a complete dick. When I got over it, I felt really refreshed and lighter, somehow. I guess I'm just trying to tell you that you shouldn't force yourself to love, because I realized that before, only half of me really loved him. The other half was just hanging on to what used to be and what I would like, but wasn't real. Just be yourself, and stop chasing love. Love will find you.

I got your point there @Tenshi. But, I need an interference in my usual daily life. I have a problems with girl. And I need to get my common sense right. It is not that I'm changing but I'm learning. I want to learn. I want to know. I want to understand. What she feels ? and how can it be truly shared.

still looking for a girl ^^

Heelllppppp!!! the guy i like completely is oblivious to my flirting and i wanna ask him but but dont at the same time!What should i do?

depends on the guy and it's a 50%, 50% no matter what way you put it just ask him out stop being scared please, i was scared out of my mind but in the end it all worked out,though i will say on the off chance that he sais no nothing would have changed i mean, it's just good enough that you tried. i promise you ya'll still be Friends, though unless he is a jerk that you fell in love with and does not want to still be friends if he sais no,.... PLEASE LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY, other than that go for it!

Just say so, stop making the guy confused or kept questioning himself whether its real or just his own imagination.

still looking.. \(._.)

Dude, just try Tinder.

nope. . I'm just gonna use Dollars. .

bummp

Dude keeps bumbing his own thread.

/sage

bump :) im waitingg

What social medias do you have?

what the hell is wrong with this dude XD

@Yuchi Yamori Instagram and Snapchat, Plato, Facebook, Hello Talk, Telegram, Twitter(less active)

@Hahahaha
I'm trying I guess ? :)

woah ur still looking?? how's the search been going??

Good for you Rune, trying to find love! Protip tho, don't talk to girls. Girls are weird. Look for reverse traps. You know, guys with vaginas. Then you don't have to worry about them being all weird!

As a woman, I am very disappointed that she made you go through that situation. People should not be treated like that. Especially for someone who is looking for a relationship. I support you in your endeavors to find a true girlfriend. Don't worry, you will definitely find a girl. Don't give up just yet!

@Tenshi yeah, I haven't open in a while, been so busy that I didnt even have time to have a look at my thread. Found your thread tho' . I been only getting 2-4 hours of sleep lately as well. Facing people day to day, and had a bad eating hours. Well I'm still alive here still looking for hope.

@Nonymous ey thanks but not thanks for the reverse trap. Quoted from Andrew Schulz "I'm a guy , I love chicks(girls) and ain't nothing gonna change that" ^^

@Nightwalker heyy thanks for stopping by, well its just too much back then but I am trying to trust girl once more. I hold on to that and not giving up. :)

>>22
Uhh.... wouldn't a reverse trap be a girl pretending to be a boy?? And not an actual guy?
Also, guys are fucking weird as hell, and this is coming from a gay guy.

Actual advice for OP though.. don't fret too much about finding a girlfriend. Just be yourself, be respectful, and the right girl will come around. I had a serious problem with being in relationships. As soon as I got out of one, I jumped right into another one. None were that great. It wasn't until after I stopped looking for a relationship that the perfect guy came along and we've been together about a year now. There's always hope, just gotta be patient, man. Also, in my opinion, the best relationships come out of a friendship slowly progressing into a relationship. Give it time.

>>25

Yah, reverse traps are girls pretending to be guys. That means they'll act like a guy friend (removing the complex "girl issues"), but'll fuck you like a girl friend.

>>25 >>26 shit sorry about that I totally thought it the other way around. I forgot about that. But, even so I still not into reverse trap. This thread might slowly dying away one day. I'm about to graduate from my University in 3 month. I might be busy with my job.

Let me start my story [PART 1]
This happens 6 years ago.

I was a 16 year old high school student at the time
I was playing dragon nest MMORPG for 3 hours straight until I decided to close it down, take a rest while scrolling to my anime facebook groups. On 1 particular post was about frustration playing Blackshot on Garena. I commented on it and it change my life forever.

She sent me a friend request and invite me play together. I thought I had her but apparently she's a better player. She started to asked what other game I played. We had a great talk and she was looking forward to play my recommendations and I played some of the game she played online.

We started hanging out in Saint Haven a town in Dragon Nest online world. We started doing quest and raid some tough dungeons. We got closer and started text each other on FB every time we got back from school.

Apparently, she was younger than me (14 yr old) and she decided to call me senpai, which later turn to nii-chan.
We played rhythm games Mstar Online then I introduced to her OSU. We had tons of anime music shared and played together. She was into the Vocaloid members songs. We spent hours and hours.

A few months later. I was late for our meet in Saint Haven. She got angry and told me that she was just waiting for me the entire hour. I was like "nani sore? its not like you're my girlfriend or something". She got sulkier and typed a capslock sentence "ONII-CHANN BAAKAA!!!"

She immediately log out...

I have respect for the young to date but she have a crush on you that's it. The truth may hurt for her but she's young and so are you. Just work on your future as I grew up the responsibility is important. I'm 24 and had to learn and take in a lot as an adult. These yrs does change you a lot compare to my high school yrs. Just always stay honest even if it hurts.

I'm actually in a contract with someone right now, I don't know if this contract will eventually end up with a real relationship since I've never been in a relationship. Just a tip, don't sign a contract if you're not ready yet. it may be a contract but it's still like dating someone. you'll eventually learn how to love that person and once you do, you won't stop loving that person. well, best of luck.

>>32
the story is not even finished yet. I am going 23 soon. But thank you for dropping by and gave ur honest opinions and helpful thoughts. I saw you everywhere on the thread helping out.

>>33
Well if it's gonna be like that both ways I guess its good.
Thanks for the tip but I think I need those kind of things at the moment. Kept me occupied,distracted, and getting over it. The fears.

its December already. .its been nearly a year on this thread :') I'm thankful to those who have passed by and those who has left a reply. . hope you have good journey till the end.

part of the journey is the end..

Hey, I just found this thread today. I understand your frustration and impatience with this kind of topic, especially since you're getting older and you want to feel prepared with whatever life throws at you. I don't have any experience myself. Like you, I got too shy and awkward to really pursue anyone, even if I liked them back. Now I'm in a situation where I'm cut off from pretty much everyone, so I only have friends through the internet. I don't really know anything about a 'contract', though. What exactly does it mean?

It is often when we stop looking for something, that we find it.
I think you're more into the general concept of a girlfriend and things such as "romantic love", they're nice to think of, but not reality.
Loving someone goes beyond cuddling, kissing and all those nice, fuzzy moments. It may sometimes get tiring, boring or frustrating but what counts is being there for each other. When you meet that person, you develop that commitment and those feelings over time. If not, you're not in love or looking to love that person, you're just in love with the concept of "love and romance".
So, take it easy, don't hurry yourself to do anything. And, good luck with your life in general, hope tht you can feel fulfilled without someone, that's when you're ready for your S/O. :)

It takes time. And a whole ---- ton a lot of patience and putting your mind into it, and not just going with the flow. But making the world flow for you. For example, I didn't work out with my ex-girlfriend because although we were friends, we couldn't figure out how to cooperate and coexist. We didn't understand each other. That's another important thing, is understanding. Not just to listen, but to actually think about the other person; how to try and make their life a little better or easier or happier or anything really. I didn't do that, I just blew my way through and never said anything when my emotions got to my head, so take from my failure and Glow in Pride and Success! I hope this help you

From the way things are right now with me. I won't be able to have anything start at all.

>>36 I wanted to have a friend who role play as my girlfriend for within a certain time period

>>37 no of course not I understand that.

>>38 yes, but I am different.

okay let me be honest then. If you have read I did say I am a tall neat good looking Asian guy whom people can mistook for Korean but I am not.

feeling fulfilled without someone. I have been living by myself for as long as I can remember. I learnt by myself and I ask a lot of stuff when I don't know things.
I can lead.
I can communicate well with people both old and young.
I can cook.
I can play Guitar and Piano.

I was seen as this super cool guy who can handle a lot of stress. I was the student representative. I have lead and manage projects. Appear on TV twice. Won competitions.

I guess I am pretty all-rounded guy, jack-of-all trades.

People look up to me. People expect things from me.

I did talk to girls. I do approach girls but only when I have work with them. I do have a number of girls whom trust and flirt with me. I have been invited to sleep in girl house many times their father or brother allowed me to watch over them. They say I'm nice and I'm good and trustworthy. But Only God knows how much I am tempted to exploit everything. Trust is a gift but it is also a challenge for me.

Surely some of you said it will be bad. Not understanding each other and things. Yes, but that is you not me. My consistency, reliability, being responsible at times, accountable, and resourcefulness made such event have less chance happening. I hardly nearly never had a conflict with a girl. Aside of my experience having a relationship with a psycho yandere whom suddenly for no reason being aggressive and pressure cook me FOR NO REASON which I find stupid.

Now I don't have a focus just 1 girl in my life. There are dozens of them for me to choose from who are seemingly waiting for me to make a move or action per se.
But I can't make it, and I can't choose one.

I have fear being in a relationship. Girls are unpredictable after all.

I am looking forward for someone that can help me overcome this fear thats all.

Thank you again to those who read. I'm gonna start working on 2nd January its an investment company that have network in South East Asia region. I was given a chance to work with one of its start up company. Since I won't be doing much, I will check back on this thread every 2 days.

Dude, the community here is way too small to get what you're looking for...Anyone who replied to you on this thread is doing you a disservice. I suggest you use dating apps if you really want to find someone at all. Tinder, OkCupid are all great for those purposes. Publicizing yourself here is really starting to get annoying. Checking this thread once every other day reeks of desperation- which brings me to my earlier point: Use a dating app, girls there will know you're serious, and you can advertise yourself as much as you want. I don't know why you're so persistent here. Is your ego that bloated? Are you too thick-skinned?

And if you think girls would be interested Kpop idols as their boyfriends you're wrong lol. Trust me I've been through that stage.

Stop abusing The Dollars website for your personal selfish gain. This is not even a dating website. We can give advice and share our thoughts, but what you're doing is indeed out of line.

People stop replying to this thread, and OP please stop bumping your own post.

https://youtu.be/o9rnAazLA-A

I saw this in a different thread but it works perfectly here.

I saw you replied to >>38 with a list of your virtues. The thing is, you may have all of thos wonderful traits, but, the important thing in relatinships is being open to them. When you decline and avoid contact with females besides work, you are blocking your chances. It may be as you said, out of fear, but we all have it. Of course relationships are things where we risk our feelings, our time, our effort, but if we don't take those risks I can assure you no one would be with someone else. There may be a million other excuses like "Girls are unpredictable"or that a relationship is scary, but it is not u to us but up to you the choice of keeping finding excuses forever or stop it and just take the chance when you see it.
Face your fears, we all do it a some point, and I, nor everyone in here can help you entirely to achieve this. It is up to you. I wish you the best with dealing with this issue.

Hey, is this thread still active? Just wondering if OP here has any updates on how things are going.

Hello everyone, it has been a year since my last post on this thread.

This thread would probably won't be active after this update and possibly a few replies.

>>44 thank you for your interest.

Work was right. I love it, I was doing all sorts of things pitch presentation, securing deals, strategizing plans for sales and marketing, all of which was part of the trade. But sooner or later, I realize that the employer was just using me too much for his own profit while I got paid less than what I earned for the firm.

Nevertheless, it was still quite a big pay for a fresh grad like me.

I've met a girl actually quite coincidently on different occasion it became 3 separate encounters.

Let start with the 1st one, I met her back when I was active with Government and NGO movement activities for students. She's fantastic, intellectual, wants to volunteer, likes to teach and working on her medical degree at a famous local med university, she's quite religious (which is good) and she loves to read books that pique her interest. That of which I took the opportunity to ask her out to hunt for some great book deal at our country biggest book festival of the year. We had a blast, talked a lot about intellectual stuff went nerdy for the whole occasion. After we finished, I sent her to her the train stations. It was a great experience, and I went back into the convention looking for some foods ( cuz I'm hungry af at that moment).

I was buying my foods when I got a DM from my Instagram from a follower. Someone whom I never met asking me of my whereabouts. She said she saw someone who looked like me in one of the convention halls. So I was like "hey I am at the [ ------ ], that's probably me you found -where are you?". She didn't reply, so I went ahead and saved her the trouble of looking for me and tell her which food joint I was at in the hall. I couldn't find a more comfortable 'I like to eat alone table' so I had to share with a bunch of random strangers on one long dining table. The foods were delicious, and it was cheap. I took my time finishing them until...

I got a reply from the DM. Asking me if there's anybody else with me. I told her "No, I was with someone, but she left already. I'm just enjoying my food atm". I asked her back "where are you?" then she said, "I'm right next to you..." Yes, you guessed it (well probably). She's the 2nd girl.


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