A couple problems that I have been trying to solve for the past two years now.

1. My sister. Her attitude has been getting worse and worse, with severe (and i'm talking SEVERE) mood swings. She still has some sanity left to not go physical, but she's been taking unnecessary anger out on me and my mom, while kissing up to my dad. I get that she's having a lot of stress from school and academics (she's a sophomore) but that doesn't justify her actions. Our entire family attitude is negatively impacted by her. My mom has been sinking into depression, and since I am her favorite daughter (there's only me and my sister) I have the responsibility of listening and alleviating her problems. My dad is becoming increasingly isolated from the family because he goes out to alleviate stress. Last year I tried to get our feelings through to her, that we still cared about her and wanted to help her become a better person. But she rejected me, she rejected me so hard. She doesn't even acknowledge me as a person with feelings, nor my mom, only as a tool. A toy. All just because we're the most level-headed, caring members of the family, and because I am younger than her, if only by two years. Now, all I feel when I look at her is disgust. Is this wrong? What can I do to make this situation better?

2. This is more personal, but it's about love. I have recently realized that I have been in love with this guy that I am extremely close to for two years now, and I don't know what to do about it. I think that love is quite impractical and honestly kinda annoying. I'm still a student, after all, and one with big dreams and goals at that. Dealing with love at my age would be quite a bother, and especially since I have fallen for a guy like him—slightly moody, a bit childish. And yet I can't erase these feelings of mine. It's all too much.

Please, please help me. Suggestions would be greatly appreciated, thank you so much for reading this.

I am dying to find a way to help you because I have the exact same case with my brother. I honestly hate him to the point of wanting to kill myself when the songs I'm blasting into my ear end and I catch some of his voice. Frankly, I don't know how I'm still sane and didn't murder him yet. However my brother is actually epileptic and it's kind of a really persistant one. Really persistent his doctor thought he is possessed and actually requested an exorcism and im not even exaggerating. I am quite the empty and cold type of person and I like to keep my personal space so this is sort of very annoying to me; to be feeling this pathetic. I wish from the bottom of my heart to be able to help you because it's very hard to hate a member of your own family that's your own sibling. I truly feel sorry for not being able to give you any useful advise or something that could cheer you up. I hate to be this useless to people especially since it's the first time I meet someone with almost the same problems as me. I do wish you somehow find a solution and everything turns out to the better eventually though, sincerely. I hope you'll only have to endure for a little more before your life starts improving and I hope your family will be once again one that only knows harmony. Don't lose hope.

On the other hand I think you shouldn't let feelings of love bother you much. With time you'll know how to advance and approach those feelings, and if you want to hold on to them and let that person know it would be a good choice, to a certain extent! And I personally think that if you just ask him if he's interested in getting a girlfriend casually or just hint out that you have something for him, it's totally fine! I don't think you'll lose anything. Love is just a game when you think about it. It's just a push and pull thing. Think of it as an otome haha. It might not always have a good ending but I think it's completely worth the try. And quite honestly as long as there's communication between the two of you, it'll definitely be meaningful and end up leading you somewhere :)

Oh my gosh, thank you so much! After reading your reply I felt better because I knew that I wasn't alone in these sort of problems, so don't ever feel useless because you helped me a great deal just by listening and replying to me. Wish you the best, and let's get through this together!

I'm guessing you mean college sophomore, as high school sophomore the academics aren't stressful. She needs to grow up and start acting like an adult and find something to relieve her stress in a better way. Why can't your parents just kick her out, since she is over 18?

If she is in high school then she is probably going through puberty still and whatnot. Yet I'm guessing their isn't much of an underlying problem why she exhibits that behavior. My sister did, but it was somewhat a result from abuse.

Love always happens when least expected. I knew I didn't have much time to be with someone in order to finish college in a sped up manner. I ended up meeting someone and I had to slow down my progression a little bit, but not much.