This is a bit weird to explain. At one point in time, I had two boyfriends, who we'll call C and M. I started dating C a month before M and he gave me permission to date M and M was aware that I was still dating C when I started dating him. So they both knew about each other and were perfectly okay with it.
In December, C broke up with me and I told M about it. M spent hours making sure I was alright and cheered me up after the break up. After that, things were relatively normal.
However, yesterday I was texting C and we ended up sexting. We're not back together or anything, it was just for fun. But now that I think about it, was that okay for me to do since I'm still dating M? Or would it be alright since he was fine with the open relationship before? I don't know. I'm gonna bring it up to M later, but I wanna know if it should be more of an apologetic tone or a casual tone. This is just a weird circumstance and I don't know how to handle it.

In my opinion, I don't think it was. While you and C were still together M was okay about that because he was aware of the situation. But since you've broken up it could be a whole different story. I don't know M personally so I don't have a clue how he would react, however, if I were you I would go with more of an apologetic tone just to be on the safe side.

before i start i will just that there people who read your thread but didnt like to get involved so i will just be clear and honest with you.

Q1- how old are you and why are you dating 2 guys in the first place?

Q2- what is your point of view about dating?

Q3- if C likes you , he would not break up with you in the first place to be honest. plus M guy is the one who you should give him more attention.

Q4-why would you "sexting" with your ex C when you are in a relationship with M guy?

Q5-and why are you asking about tones? just be straight forward with M and explain to him that you were texting C and tell him who started sexting , was it C or you

im simply not being mean at all.
but we cant just fix your life to make you happy and ruin another person we dont know life.

some people here wont agree with me probably which is fine, but since no one replied to your thread to understand what is happening.

PS.im more than fine if a mod or an admin wanted todeleted my comment
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Well, things happen and I'm not going to judge. But I do think it wasn't right to be sexting your ex, especially if you're dating someone else. Though, I do believe you should bring it up to the one you are currently still dating and apologise for doing that to him. Hopefully, he'll understand. But you should make sure not to do that in the future. You're only dating M now, so you should focus on him

If you were in a poly relationship with C and M before, and both of them were aware of that, it isn't really that much of a problem. However, if M isn't aware that you were sexting with C, I think maybe you should bring it up with him. You should really discuss things like this with M since the two of you are in a relationship before you do the whole sexting thing to see if he's willing to continue the open relationship. You should probably bring this subject up when both of you are relaxed without any tension in the air. The mood should be casual, but breach the subject cautiously. Maybe start with something like "Has C been texting you lately? C texted me today and..." so on. Try not to be too casual about the whole thing, since M might not be okay with the whole sexting thing, but being overly apologetic might not be the best way to go either. Try going from a middle ground in terms of tone.

Alright. Thanks all. I talked to M about it and he is still alright with an open relationship, but he'd prefer if I didn't, so out of respect, I'm not gonna do anything more with C. M was completely understanding and not upset at all and you guys are absolutely right when you say I should focus on him because, wow, he's an amazing person. He handled this so well too despite it being a strange situation.
No further replies necessary, thank you.

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