>>2 Thank you for the reply. I don’t know if this method would work though, because even if I’m visualising it from their point of view, I still struggle to visualise the rest of the world and see what it looks like.
>>3 It’s replies like this that honestly scare me. I need to remember that we will never see everything when it comes to posts like this. We’re just two anonymous people who happened to have something about us that overlap. If I were more desperate I wouldn’t be surprised if I just thought that you were “the one”, so I’m glad that I can still see things realistically.
But that’s the problem with really wanting something like this, you end up having a messed up perception of things, and have different biases preventing you from seeing clearly. If it goes so long without finding anything, you get impatient and might think that anything decently close to what you were looking for is exactly it. There’s also technically the reverse of it, where if you always find out that it’s not what you were looking for then you just assume everything will end up that way, in which you could just walk right past the perfect one/thing you were after.
But from what I read it sounds like you really did understand the kinds of things that I’m going through. I don’t believe anyone can truly understand anyone, especially just from a single post, but if anything you probably exist in a similar world to me.
The real world is very different to on here. Online you have ways of narrowing everyone down, and finding people more similar to you, but in the real world it’s simply who happens to exist near you. Irl I find myself surrounded by people who have pretty much nothing in common with me, where I exist in a completely different world to them, so I probably have even less connections than you do. I became very reserved and don’t talk much, because any attempts of being friends with anyone always end up very fake and aren’t real.
This concept of being alone but not lonely is how I wish I was, and how I used to think I was. It would just make things so much simpler, because finding someone you care about seems like something you’re meant to find when you’re not looking for it. When you’re truly apathetic, then if you don’t find it then it doesn’t matter. I guess a problem with this kind of character is that it only works if something like a story or true friend ends up coming to you, because otherwise you just find yourself with nothing, as time goes on and you don’t. I realise I’m getting this mixed up. This name I’m using I’ve used for a while, and only just remembered how relevant this character is to this kind of conversation. I don’t know if you’ve seen it, but the anime is called Nabari no ou, with Miharu as the main character.
But as far as being lonely but not alone goes, I feel like it would make things simpler from a writing point of view. If I could just write something on my own, and have something like that to show what I’m like, then it would be easier to find someone to help me. But without having much completed or accomplished, and without being able to show the unfinished projects I’m working on, all people have to go off of are a couple of posts like this.
A few years ago I used to have my own little way of describing myself. It sounded coll at the time, but I used to say that I was lonely in a crowd. Figured I’d throw that in there.
To be honest, I’m not someone that ever really understood how romance and that stuff works. Things like dating, flirting, and even the physical side of it seem like a seperate little game that people play, that doesn’t actually have anything to do with caring about someone. If you take it away, then what’s the difference between having a true friend, and having a girlfriend/boyfriend?
But yeah, thanks for reading. I prefer long replies anyway, and as you can see mine aren’t exactly the shortest. I’m not sure what the point of this all is, but at least I can have my little glimpse of hope or happiness, or whatever it’s called.